Plaxicott Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 "Treat them as if you're in a long term relationship." Easier said than done. First they don't know a lot about me, and it's this first challenge that I'm having difficulty with. I realize that there is no "standard" way of opening yourself up to women, but what must you typically self disclose about yourself in sequential order, during the first few weeks? By sequential order, I mean that I don't know what I should mention first: family, previous job, where I live, what i like to do, the origin of my name, why I'm working here, etc. that's always hard! what are the very first things you bring up with a new person? BTW, I work at a new Barnes and Noble, so the very first thing I could talk about are the books we like to read. But how to seque into other things? Thanks. I used to think that I should let my humor and opinions act as a gateway for people to get to know me. This was a mistake because I've realized that I do not have a funny comment for everything. I'm not "quick on the draw" like this one guy I know. If someone says something or anything unique or unusual happens, he's able to make a funny comment. And he does it repetitively enough that female co-workers are drawn to him, and get to know him that way. So now that leaves me with the option of sitting in the breakroom, and getting to know someone in a normal conversation. Which I am not yet prepared for. Link to comment
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