Steve 7745 Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 So I started to ponder about the women I used to date when I suddenly came up with an impressive idea. I think the main killer of my interest in someone was her boyfriend after me. Let's take an ex fling of mine for example. This cute, blonde girl named Sofia. The guy she's been dating for a few years is fat, owns a gun and is a self proclaimed jock. He played Rugby like me and seems to act like a real tool. His slogan was, "Tough on nerds, even tougher on geeks," and looks like one of those sports nuts who wastes so much of his time at bars with clubs. I think when you piece together the kinds of people that a girl dates after you, you begin to wonder, "Is that seriously the kind of guy I'd have to be in order to be with her?" The thought is very unattractive. Imagine gaining 50 lbs and looking like the main character from Forgetting Sarah Marshall. Blowing loads money on alcohol just to watch a stupid football game? Or needing to make fun of people just to look tough? Seriously, screw you lady. Let's take another fling from two years ago. Her following boyfriend lasted quite a while. He seemed like a pretty impressive guy. A nice 2005 Ford Mustang, great job as a helicopter production manager, traveled to exotic locations as part of his vocation and he was pretty handsome to boot. But some of the things he did disturbed me quite a bit. You could tell from his posts that he was often insecure. He completely totalled his car at some point (smashing your sports car makes your premiums skyrocket), and I suspect the reason that the last point occurred was because he was also an avid drug user. And if that last point wasn't nasty enough, I would also like to note that girl in question had a 2 year old daughter as well. A guy who slips pills for fun as a potential father figure? Of course, after all, having all those good points and none of the problems would just be too boring, wouldn't it. As for so most of my other flings and exs, many are still single. I suppose there are ups and downs to this, such as either they're seeing someone they don't want too many people to know about (ie, he's Mr. Right Now), or they simply haven't met anyone who meets a set of high standards. But sometimes, you feel better about yourself because there's nothing to compare yourself too. Just a little rant to dwell on, but when you come to realize you just want to be your decent self to be with someone, letting them go is not that hard. Link to comment
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