Ex-gf hates new my new gf... and they both work together.

[justanotherhurtguy]

So my ex broke up with me a couple months ago and only wanted to be friends. I was sad, depressed and always kept trying to get her back. I moved on and have started dating another girl in the same department as her. It just sort of happened. It's been great so far and she is everything I could want in a girlfriend. Everything my ex wasn't.

 

All of a sudden, my ex is wanting to hang out, calls repeatedly, and argues with me all the time. I ignore her calls, but she rings over and over and over and over... etc. To the point I just can't take it and answer. I actually counted one time and it was at least 30 missed calls in 10 minutes. It's funny, what I wouldn't have given for that a few months ago.

 

Now her and their boss which my ex is basically her boss's puppy. Have been making my girl's job a living hell. Now she has started slacking and doesn't really care anymore about her job. Yet she doesn't want to quit. So my ex now has a "valid" reason to try and get her fired. And who does she talk to about this? That's right, me.

 

She says all these negative things about her and it gets on my nerves. I don't tell her any of my girl's reasons why she is slacking. I understand that it's not right and she should either just quit or work harder (if it's true).

 

So now I'm caught in between the two hearing them bash the other and my ex is getting on my nerves.

 

WORD OF ADVICE: Never date anyone at work.

[Cognitive_Canine]

She broke up with you. Who is she to critisize your dating choices?! Tell her to back off and go with whatever girl you darn fancy!

 

If she calls again, tell her directly to back off. And also tell her that you're sure her boss would "love" to hear about how she is tormenting a fellow coworker because she can't proffessionally separate her work and personal life.

[HealingHandsWarmHeart]

why are you still talking to her ..to even listen to her bash your current girlfriend...

 

don't take her calls... and kindly remind her of her decision to end things with you.

[annie24]

i also would not speak to your ex anymore. why are you even taking her calls?

[Cognitive_Canine]

Turn your phone on silent when she starts calling so you don't have to listen to the ring.

 

If it is a land line, disconnect the line.

[agent1607307371]

So now I'm caught in between the two hearing them bash the other

 

No you're not. You're choosing to listen to your ex bash your girl.

[BeStrongBeHappy]

This could get all of you fired if you're not careful. A place of business should be just that, and these personal rivalries have no place there.

 

Tell both of them that this is impacting work, and is not professional and needs to stop. Tell you ex you're sorry, but she broke up with you, and now you're with someone else so it is not her business.

 

Then quit taking personal calls from the ex. Your new girlfriend has to ignore the ex's bad behavior and behave professionally.

[justanotherhurtguy]

Turn your phone on silent when she starts calling so you don't have to listen to the ring.

 

If it is a land line, disconnect the line.

 

I do, but then I get (literally) a minimum of ten voicemails and ten texts. I've tried to tell my girl to act professional, but she gets so upset. I try to ignore my ex at work and be polite, but she walks into my office and starts complaining about her. I say I'm busy, but she contines. I'm not about to start a yelling contest at work.

 

No you're not. You're choosing to listen to your ex bash your girl.

 

You know what, you're right. That's ending today. She wants to bash her, then fine. Let her think what she wants to. I'm done with her.

[Cognitive_Canine]

I do, but then I get (literally) a minimum of ten voicemails and ten texts. I've tried to tell my girl to act professional, but she gets so upset. I try to ignore my ex at work and be polite, but she walks into my office and starts complaining about her. I say I'm busy, but she contines. I'm not about to start a yelling contest at work.

 

Don't yell at all. Perfectly and calmly say "You broke up with me. What are you thinking coming in here with the intentions of complaining about my new girlfriend to me? Do you think it falters me at all? You have no idea how weak and unproffessional you look right now." Put no emotion into these words. Say them slowly and calmly. Then give her a big smile at the end just to really twist the knife.

 

It'll embarrass her and she'll leave you the heck alone.

[Cognitive_Canine]

ever seen american beauty?

 

Say it in the tone of voice that the husband uses when he catches his wife cheating on him.

[annie24]

I do, but then I get (literally) a minimum of ten voicemails and ten texts. I've tried to tell my girl to act professional, but she gets so upset. I try to ignore my ex at work and be polite, but she walks into my office and starts complaining about her. I say I'm busy, but she contines. I'm not about to start a yelling contest at work.

 

 

 

You know what, you're right. That's ending today. She wants to bash her, then fine. Let her think what she wants to. I'm done with her.

 

you told her you were busy. what you need to say instead is, 'you broke up with me, i have moved on. i will not discuss my relationship with you any longer, nor will i listen to your complaints about my new gf. if you need to talk to me about business, go ahead. but i do not want any contact with you outside of that.'

[Clementine orange]

ever seen american beauty?

 

Say it in the tone of voice that the husband uses when he catches his wife cheating on him.

 

Is that the part where he says something like "oh, we've met before but somehow I think this time you're going to remember me" at the drive through for "happy" burger or something.

 

If so, then that was a seminal moment indeed.

 

to the OP, you need to cut the ex loose, she had her chance, she ended it, now SHE has to move on as you have. This whole thing just drips of irony though - must be somewhat delicious (while also being annoying)

[ImThatGirl]

So you all 3 work at the same place?

[HeartGoesOn]

This is the reason why dating co-workers is frowned upon.

[justanotherhurtguy]

So you all 3 work at the same place?

 

 

I work in a different part of the building, they work in offices accross from each other.

[bijoux27]

You need to be a little more mean to your ex, it seems like you were being too nice. Tell her to get lost and block her number.

[ImThatGirl]

Well... lol this is what ya get.

 

Stop making it publicly known when you date someone from the office. There's no reason your ex even knows you are dating the new girl.

[justanotherhurtguy]

Well... lol this is what ya get.

 

Stop making it publicly known when you date someone from the office. There's no reason your ex even knows you are dating the new girl.

 

She doesn't know we are dating. All she knows is that we talk on breaks and she's my friend.

 

 

 

The ex is a biotch. I'd tell your gf to quit the job and get another one and ignore the ex.

 

 

Oh and she told me today that she is going to get her fired by the end of the day or next week, because she's swamped and sarah is on the internet when she should be working.

[Caterina]

Stop talking to her. She's horrible.