Does fun girl = guy will never be interested in anything more?

[ramsickle1369]

Ahaha, yeah, my post was confusing.

 

I define "fun time" as: The girl is not committed. She has several suitors. She hangs out with all of them.

 

"Sex": self-explanatory.

 

A girl raises her social value, if she doesn't take men seriously. A girl should prolong "fun time" as long as possible. She should not commit herself. Instead, each suitor must prove himself. Also, he does not know his standing in relation to his competitors. Only the girl knows the scores. She rewards good behaviour and punishes bad behaviour. This way, each suitor invests more and more effort, even though the girl is free to cut him off without notice.

 

Sex should be withheld, so that people don't call her loose.

 

 

Thanks for the clarification. If only this girl had multiple suitors! Ahhh... again, isn't that what dating is supposed to be? With regard to the sex, hey, I am not afraid to say it, I like sex! I don't withhold for very long unless I am simply not interested in the guy. However, when I AM interested, umm.... well, like I said, I like sex! I don't care if some jerk calls me loose... Men do it all the time and are they called loose? NOPE! They are called lucky!

[Imprecision]

ramsickle1369,

 

Thanks for the clarification. If only this girl had multiple suitors! Ahhh... again, isn't that what dating is supposed to be?

 

No worries. I'm writing a small pamphlet called "Games smart women play - a guide for guys and girls." It contains step-by-step, strategic maneuveurs for wrapping any guy around your finger tip.

 

With regard to the sex, hey, I am not afraid to say it, I like sex! I don't withhold for very long unless I am simply not interested in the guy. However, when I AM interested, umm.... well, like I said, I like sex! I don't care if some jerk calls me loose... Men do it all the time and are they called loose? NOPE! They are called lucky!

 

Lol, true. But if a man is "lucky" to have sex, then he's not much of a man. "Lucky" suggests something hapzardous and hit-and-miss. It also suggests that the girl is gracious enough to give him sex, as one would feed a yapping dog some bacon to shut it up.

[Batya33]

Maybe this has been said already but I see a distinction between a man (or a woman I guess) saying at the outset "i am not looking for a relationship, let's just go on dates and have fun" and the man who says nothing and for the first several dates, you go out and have fun. In the former situation I would think chances are low that the man will have a change of heart, in the latter it's anyone's guess - until there's a discussion - what the intentions are.

 

I am reminded of a friend I had who was very serious minded from a young age. She ended a serious relationship while we were maybe sophomores in college and then she met a guy a few years older who was not done partying - but they had a blast. She told me - look, he is just for fun, for now - no future here. 8 months later they ended things because he was more focused on going out with the boys it seemed. 6 months after that on valentine's day he sent her a dozen roses and begged for another chance. 8 months later they were engaged and last I checked they were happily married for 10 years, one child.

 

So, you never know - that just for fun guy may be a blast for a lifetime.

[ramsickle1369]

No worries. I'm writing a small pamphlet called "Games smart women play - a guide for guys and girls." It contains step-by-step, strategic maneuveurs for wrapping any guy around your finger tip.

CAN I HAVE THIS BOOK!?!???? I am terrible at getting what I want? I guess I give in too quickly or something...?? IDK. And it's just with this ONE guy... I can't think of any thing other than him and no one compares--on just about any level.

 

 

Lol, true. But if a man is "lucky" to have sex, then he's not much of a man. "Lucky" suggests something hapzardous and hit-and-miss. It also suggests that the girl is gracious enough to give him sex, as one would feed a yapping dog some bacon to shut it up.

LMAO! Sometimes, that's EXACTLY what it feels like! It's like, OK OK OK, yeah, I'm kinda in the mood, let's do it already!

I am reminded of a friend I had who was very serious minded from a young age. She ended a serious relationship while we were maybe sophomores in college and then she met a guy a few years older who was not done partying - but they had a blast. She told me - look, he is just for fun, for now - no future here. 8 months later they ended things because he was more focused on going out with the boys it seemed. 6 months after that on valentine's day he sent her a dozen roses and begged for another chance. 8 months later they were engaged and last I checked they were happily married for 10 years, one child.

 

So, you never know - that just for fun guy may be a blast for a lifetime.

Hey Batya,

I suppose every situation is really different. I am guessing that this guy of your friend's needed time to get a little more mature. Once he was done, he realized what they had WAS fun, so why stop? So I hope anyway...