Butterflygrl Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 I think about you all who have offered help, advice, or just an occasional "i know what you feel like" and this is the visual i get. I'm the guy from the Verizon commercial facing another person (this case the dreaded EX) and the caring people (you guys) who help me get through the days sometimes even minutes is the crowd that stands behind me. Telling me "Hey chickie, we got your back and we are here for you." You guys never met me but Someone always responds with a caring word and telling me that I can make it, I can do it. Thanks guys- i hope i can do for you guys what you do for me. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 Hey - that's what we are here for. We're like one big family. Sorry you're going through such a tough time. I think at one time or another we have all been in your shoes. I know I have hon. We pick eachother up when we're down, and we cheer each other on when we have victory's. Hang tough. You'll get there! If I did, I can promise you that you will too! My best to you... ~Allie Link to comment
IMAbadman Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 I feel for you. Stay tough, it will get better. We're all going to make it through this. Link to comment
Butterflygrl Posted August 14, 2008 Author Share Posted August 14, 2008 Hey - that's what we are here for. We're like one big family. Sorry you're going through such a tough time. I think at one time or another we have all been in your shoes. I know I have hon. We pick eachother up when we're down, and we cheer each other on when we have victory's. Hang tough. You'll get there! If I did, I can promise you that you will too! My best to you... ~Allie See what I mean? Thanks Allie and BadMan. How long did it take for you guys? I'm rather impatient. ](*,) Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 I'm the guy from the Verizon commercial facing another person (this case the dreaded EX) and the caring people (you guys) who help me get through the days sometimes even minutes is the crowd that stands behind me. Do not be fooled by us though... we can also be the pack of wolves that will attack and eat your ex if he continues to hurt you! lol Link to comment
Butterflygrl Posted August 14, 2008 Author Share Posted August 14, 2008 Do not be fooled by us though... we can also be the pack of wolves that will attack and eat your ex if he continues to hurt you! lol My hero! lol. Link to comment
jettison Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 The people that get the most out of this site when they first arrive often end up turning around and becoming regulars whose only goal it is seems to be to help out noobs in trouble. There is a new crowd that comes through here every couple months. Some stick and some don't. Regulars disappear forever, and then occasionally, you have those that simply become ENA institutions like Jaded, CAD, and BSBH, and really just get a lot of reward out of helping people out. One has to believe in the collective unconscious to be able to give so often and so selflessly to strangers. It's because these people don't believe us all to be strangers. They sense the connection that we all feel, and realize that deep down, in a sense, we're all the same person. Link to comment
IMAbadman Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 Do not be fooled by us though... we can also be the pack of wolves that will attack and eat your ex if he continues to hurt you! lol I'm packing my A1 sauce with me right now. Link to comment
IMAbadman Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 See what I mean? Thanks Allie and BadMan. How long did it take for you guys? I'm rather impatient. ](*,) We'll I'm just over 3 months without my EX. Truthfully I miss and love her, I’m sure in a way I always will. But I've come to realize and accept that she does not feel the same about me. So... I no longer waste my time, tears, or temperament on her. In that 3 months I only broke NC once after 2 months to "test the water" with her. Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 .......... had to edit my post... oops Link to comment
Clabs Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 Hi hun - great post! The great news is that you are making progress and you are moving forward. Sure - we are right behind you to kick your butt, but don't forget what you are doing for yourself to get there - good for you hun - you should be proud of yourself! Mark Link to comment
Butterflygrl Posted August 14, 2008 Author Share Posted August 14, 2008 I'm packing my A1 sauce with me right now. that makes me laugh- . i needed that Link to comment
Butterflygrl Posted August 14, 2008 Author Share Posted August 14, 2008 Hi hun - great post! The great news is that you are making progress and you are moving forward. Sure - we are right behind you to kick your butt, but don't forget what you are doing for yourself to get there - good for you hun - you should be proud of yourself! Mark And you're one of those people Mark....i wuv ya! Link to comment
Butterflygrl Posted August 14, 2008 Author Share Posted August 14, 2008 The people that get the most out of this site when they first arrive often end up turning around and becoming regulars whose only goal it is seems to be to help out noobs in trouble. There is a new crowd that comes through here every couple months. Some stick and some don't. Regulars disappear forever, and then occasionally, you have those that simply become ENA institutions like Jaded, CAD, and BSBH, and really just get a lot of reward out of helping people out. One has to believe in the collective unconscious to be able to give so often and so selflessly to strangers. It's because these people don't believe us all to be strangers. They sense the connection that we all feel, and realize that deep down, in a sense, we're all the same person. Yes, very very well said. And as far as this particular thread (break-up) because there are many topics here. I find the dumped all have that running through them, this sense of giving that in the wrong hands gets abused thus they know there own kind and know how to treat them Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 yep. What jettison said is true. That's what happened to me. I was going through a breakup at the time. ENA helped me with it and grew me a lot. Now I only come on here to help others, and occasionally post vents. It DOES get easier. And we DO have your back. Us wolves have to stick together. Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 The people that get the most out of this site when they first arrive often end up turning around and becoming regulars whose only goal it is seems to be to help out noobs in trouble. There is a new crowd that comes through here every couple months. Some stick and some don't. Regulars disappear forever, and then occasionally, you have those that simply become ENA institutions like Jaded, CAD, and BSBH, and really just get a lot of reward out of helping people out. One has to believe in the collective unconscious to be able to give so often and so selflessly to strangers. It's because these people don't believe us all to be strangers. They sense the connection that we all feel, and realize that deep down, in a sense, we're all the same person. Speaking of which. What ever happened to my personal hero.... PocoDiablo? I miss that guy. He was the one that REALLY helped me out to where I am at today. He suggested 2 books that ended up changing my life and gave me some advice that really helped me save my relationship with my GF. Her and I are doing better than I have ever thought possible and in a weird way, I kinda feel like I owe pocodiablo my life! lol There are so many people on here that offer so much inspitartion. There are people in here that can straight shoot you and put things in black and white for you, others who can help you crack that long lost smile and others who just really can give you the comfort that you are aching for. All in all I love this website and my advice while VERY BLUNT sometimes, has helped others out immensely. I am to the point to where I have a couple of regulars that just PM me every other day to let me know their progress and seek further advice. I am glad that I am able to not only get help from others on here but I have the ability to help people with my past. To anyone hurting right now, just realize that it is just a phase and you will soon recover from it just like a fresh open wound. Some wounds are deep and leave a scar, some scars remind us of how not to mimic that action that gave us that scar in the first place. Think of your pain right now as a key to be able to help someone out in the future because you will be able to relate to them on the same level. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 Yes, very very well said. And as far as this particular thread (break-up) because there are many topics here. I find the dumped all have that running through them, this sense of giving that in the wrong hands gets abused thus they know there own kind and know how to treat them Yeah, if you look at all the threads at once. It can be depressing, because most of what you see is people talking about very recent breakups. What you don't see, are the threads that people make when they are all done healing. Mostly because people usually don't make them. A lot leave ENA when they think they have healed enough and can go it alone. Link to comment
Clabs Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 Aw - thanks hun! It is great to hear you sounding so much more positive - really makes me smile. Mark Link to comment
Butterflygrl Posted August 14, 2008 Author Share Posted August 14, 2008 yep. It DOES get easier. And we DO have your back. Us wolves have to stick together. Aweee*** thank you.... Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 See what I mean? Thanks Allie and BadMan. How long did it take for you guys? I'm rather impatient. ](*,) Well, I went through a divorce after a 12 year marriage. I was with my Exhusband for a total of 23 years. It was hard, and I would say it was absolute hellish for about a year. What is your situation? What can I do to help you out? Link to comment
KaylaJoy Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 I'll second that emotion, Butterfly girl. I've gotten so much encouragement from ENA. It's a great place to be when you need to talk, unload, listen, help, cheer, confide, confess, etc! Link to comment
lovemycoffee41 Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 This place is fabulous, for any and all of life's ups and downs. Everyone here is amazing! Link to comment
journogirl Posted August 15, 2008 Share Posted August 15, 2008 i agree this place has helped so so much and i thank you all im going away for a week from saturday and will feel a bit lost without all of you! i hope when i return next week i will be a bit stronger....here's hoping thankyou all "You have to see an awful lot of rain before you find the rainbow" xxxx Link to comment
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