notsoanonymous Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 Has anyone ever been able to deal with a break up due to cold feet that ultimately resulted in getting back together? I've posted my story in another thread already but my BF and I jsut broke up after buying our house because he is concerned about our long term ability to stay together, he has SERIOUS cold feet, is dealing with too much stress and jsut doesn't know if he wants to be with anyone (me or otherwise) at this point in life... We are going to our first appointment with a therapist tonight to discuss where we go from here (it's been on and off for 12 days now - yes we can make it work, no I don't know, no we can't, rinse and repeat). A friend said to me today she figured after therapy he would come home (he moved out two days ago to "clear his head" until therapy) and we would be alright. I frankly feel too hurt to take him back into my arms like that at this point, but maybe one day. What did you do and how did you feel? I have NO idea what he is going to say in therapy - or if he will even show. Link to comment
girl friend Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 aw i'm lying in bed and my feet are cold, thought you were talking about how 2 get them warm.. sorry i'm no use. no idea about the problem mate, just couldn't resist making a joke.. well actually am serious.. when in bed how do you get cold feet warm? x Link to comment
Xetra Dax Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 Just make him put black warm socks on into bed. and there's electric blankets too which if you make them heat your bed in advance would seriously reduce the cold. Throwing away your relationship over cold feet is too harsh, its a problem that can be overcomed and solved. Link to comment
girl friend Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 Just make him put black warm socks on into bed. and there's electric blankets too which if you make them heat your bed in advance would seriously reduce the cold. Throwing away your relationship over cold feet is too harsh, its a problem that can be overcomed and solved. LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Are you for real dude? or did u mis-read the post. I was joking about the feet being ice blocks in bed, i think the OP was talking about cold feet as in committment issues in the relationship... wow that made me laugh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sorry again to the OP for being no sensible use... Link to comment
notsoanonymous Posted August 18, 2008 Author Share Posted August 18, 2008 Can one of the mods please delete this post so I can post something new and actually get some help? :sad: Thank you... Link to comment
girl friend Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 Hi there notsoanonymous, sorry for making a joke out of it. But you have had 125 views on this thread - maybe people don't know how to help you or what best to say to advise.. It is a tricky situation. I certainly think the therapy was an excellent move - did you both go? how was it? That is one of the most positive steps you could have taken, and if he doesn't turn up or refuses to try and work through it, maybe it is a sign that you wont get through this. Alternatively you may be just fine. Maybe the doubts can be turned around into something positive.. were you both communicating effectively ? or was everything happening a bit too fast without much time to properly talk about it or to appreciate each other? how can this be fixed? It is a concern clearly though why a guy would throw away everything from a long-term relationship to a potential shared morgage to manage alone... were you guys having problems before? Are you mad at him? could you forgive him? If he has hurt you it may be the best conclusion to call it a day, but not until much careful discussion and work has been done. Good luck! girl friend Link to comment
amipushy Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 Can one of the mods please delete this post so I can post something new and actually get some help? :sad: Thank you... You can delete your own post if you really want to, no need for mods. Just go to Threads and delete. Link to comment
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