What is up with the phone tag??!

[steplively]

i must admit that I am feeling really irritated with the phone tag game my guy seems to be playing with me this week!! It goes like this:

 

Monday morning i call him on my way to work which we often do. I got his voicemail which almost NEVER happens in the morning. So i leave a message and go on about my day. Monday afternoon, he does call me about 3pm and i took the call- everything seems cool.

 

So Tuesday morning i call him again on my way to work- thinking nothing of it. I get his voicemail AGAIN! I leave another message wishing him a happy Tuesday. I'm thinking how weird it seems to get his voicemail! But oh well. so the whole day and evening comes with no call from him and i am feeling a bit down about it. When i wake up the next morning (wednesday), still no messages, so i just turn off my phone--- when i feel i am too nervous to not get a call-- i do this sometimes!!

 

Sure enough, i check my messages at noon and there are TWO! It seems he called that morning within 3 minutes of each call. and in each message he says he will try to call me later that day. So, i am thinking-- oh that is cool!

 

So later that day i figure i can just call him back, right? i call at about 615pm and sure enough i get his damn voicemail! Aaaahh! so i leave a nice message- no phone call that evening.

 

I figured well, he will at least call me back this morning but no! I thought about just calling again but I don't like calling more than once in a row

 

I am irritated and kinda wondering what's up. He says he hates playing games but it seems like there is a little game going on here.

 

It seems of interest that in the past week whenever i call i am usually getting his vm and this is unusual. That cell phone of his is attached at the hip-literally.

 

This kinda sucks-- any thoughts? We have been dating about 5 months now and have both agreed to be exclusive. It is not a hot and heavy infatuation but we both are really fond of the other and keep in touch on a regular basis and see each other usually on the weekends because we are both really busy during the week. He has told me that it takes him a long time to get attached with someone but that he really likes the way things are going.

 

Thanks in advance for your opinions!

[DN]

It takes two to play phone tag and you seem to be as much a participant as he is - as an example, turning off your phone so he can't get through to you. It's OK if you do that but not OK if he does it?

[steplively]

I had thought about it and i guess you have a point!

[ghost69]

stop calling him for a bit. see if he calls wondering where you are.

[shikashika]

I often don't answer my phone because I'm busy, or at work. I always call people back, and as DN says, it takes two to play phone tag.

 

Wouldn't it be worse if he was always ready and waiting by the phone?

[Shyguy24]

Hmm it is strange if your BF dosent get back pronto..what if you were in some sort of emergency. Talk to him about it , after all there can be no second guessing in a solid relationship.