zenbabyk Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 So let me start off by saying that I am brand new to this forum, and I was in search of finding a good forum to vent to, and I was in search of finding a forum where I could get honest advice, and I believe it's this forum. I know two weeks, a couple days shy from three weeks is not a long time... but let me tell you, in the past couple weeks I found complete bliss. Or so I thought. I went to a restaurant/bar with my sister and was planning on be he sober cab for the night, and I happened to meet him. (Let's just name him George Glass...) So blah blah blah we played the whole, I'm glancing at you, I'm not glancing at you game for awhile until he finally came up to me and offered me a drink. That was the point where I realized he was Brazilian. I knew that me being an American girl there would be quite a cultural difference, and coming out of a rough three year relationship I thought "What the hell, why not?" We exchanged numbers, and not too long after we left the bar he called. I told him that I would gladly accept a date and that I would be looking forward from hearing from him. Turns out that he is a professional racecar driver, lived in a nice apartment, came from a wealthy family and was here for work until December, and possibly longer. The first time we got together we met up at his place, and walked around the lake, went to an art fair, had lunch, went out to the bars with my friends, and then I slept at his place. ( I was not physical with him yet, but we did hold hands throughout the whole day, and we did kiss a couple times) The next morning he made me breakfast, and wanted to go get a movie, and we hung out with his brother that was visiting from Brazil, and had lunch and blah blah... Anyways we happened to hang out with eachother everyday for a whole week and everything felt until I helped him clean his apartment. I found a used condom, and I knew it was not ours. I don't know why i couldn't shake the feeling of disappointment off, but I just couldn't. All of a sudden I felt as though I was being taken advantage of. Later that night we talked about the big old "dating" topic. He explained that even though he really really liked me, he didn't know if he wanted to commit to me yet because alas we had only known eachother for a week. ( Personally I was having a great time, but wasn't ready to commit either.) We got into other topics like how he travels a lot and that he didn't want to hurt me because he knows how he is when he travels.. ( I'm assuming he likes to sleep with random girls?) But I told him it doesn't matter if you are "dating" someone, it would still hurt if you had an emotional connection. He agreed. He left for his trip the next day and when he came back after a long weekend being gone he acted like our whole conversation never happened. I didn't want to bring it up again, but I was sick of feeling like a girlfriend without the title. I told him that I didn't care what he did with people because I didn't want him to be trapped, and he took it as me not caring about him. Truthfully I do care a lot about him, and it's really hard for me to just know that he can and WILL do whatever he wants. Anyways, we hung out for a couple days in a row, and he was being all cute and making nicknames up for me. He even had lunch with me, my sisters and my mom. Later that day after a long day at the pool and alcoholic beverages, we fell asleep on his couch. He woke me up at 7pm to tell me he would be right back and that he had to go buy a plane ticket but he had to use the internet in the restaurant of his apartment building. So I went back to sleep. Two hours later no sign of him. I called him and he said that he was on his way to his race coaches house to go pick up something he needed for his race. ( I'm sorry but isn't that a little weird?) So I told him okay well I'm just going to go home then, and he said no wait I want to say goodbye to you before I leave, so I'll be upstairs in two minutes... ( * * * ? I thought he was on his way in a cab to some place in a different city??) So I'm getting suspicious... is there another girl? Why would buying a plane ticket take 2 hours? Why would you leave your own apartment building to go pick up something with someone sleeping in your living room? So we are walking to my car which is in the parking garage. There is a really quick way to get there by going through the restaurant... but for some reason he took me this really long way. He tried to hug me goodbye and I told him no because I was not "stupid" He won't speak to me now, he told me I was crazy and he can't believe that I don't trust him.... Am I crazy??? I need to know if I really messed this whole thing up. Link to comment
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