ycmanvs Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 I did the online dating thing for the past 8 months with mixed results. It has been a very exhausting experience and the 2 men who I found attractive, turned out not to be relationship material. So now I find myself not wanting to meet any new people, unless it is in real life. This is proving to be rather difficult since I only know married couples or people who do not enjoy going out. I hope that someday soon, I will figure it out... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 awesome yc. you can be just like me now. i'm all about 'in person'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ImThatGirl Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Me too..... I'm sorry you are feeling like this. Maybe if you put less emphasis on finding "the one," you will actually come accross someone ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ycmanvs Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 I hate looking. I am not the type of person who ever felt like she needed to look. Now that I am older though...it is harder to jump into something without thinking about the consequences of my actions. I keep thinking that I may not be meant to be in a long term relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 there is more outside the house than on the pc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ycmanvs Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 there is more outside the house than on the pc. I know that, but guys do not approach me because I am standoffish...and I need to get over that somehow, but I have no idea how. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 I know that, but guys do not approach me because I am standoffish...and I need to get over that somehow, but I have no idea how. so you put up a wall or you look uninviting? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ycmanvs Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 I am not sure how I look. Most people seem to think that I am extremely intimidating. I don't think I look available. I have no idea how I am supposed to look available. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
george237 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Wear a shirt that says "Single, ask for my number". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 I am not sure how I look. Most people seem to think that I am extremely intimidating. I don't think I look available. I have no idea how I am supposed to look available. you don't go out looking like everyone is out to get you and make you have a bad time. be open and fun and flirty. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ycmanvs Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 I think the problem is that I am 38, but look 28, so I get hit on by guys who are much younger than me and I have a hard time with that. Where do all the older, single guys hang out anyway? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
george237 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 How old is the average guy? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 I think the problem is that I am 38, but look 28, so I get hit on by guys who are much younger than me and I have a hard time with that. Where do all the older, single guys hang out anyway? there are clubs/bars that cater to that age range here. and then you have your 20 year old ones. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ycmanvs Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 How old is the average guy? Do you mean the ones that ask me out? About 30. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ycmanvs Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 there are clubs/bars that cater to that age range here. and then you have your 20 year old ones. What kind of clubs/bars. Where are you located? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
george237 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Do you mean the ones that ask me out? About 30. What's wrong with 30? By 30 men are genneraly already established and are looking for the same thing you are, a ltr. They don't have to be your age or older. Give it a go next time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 What kind of clubs/bars. Where are you located? west coast. just clubs/bars where the 'older' crowd goes. most are not near a university or party area. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ImThatGirl Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 What's wrong with the 30 year old guy? lol Golf clubs, Piano bars maybe.... Where are you located Y? Do you participate with any clubs or hobbies? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ycmanvs Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 west coast. just clubs/bars where the 'older' crowd goes. most are not near a university or party area. Well, I live on the East Coast in a College town, so the age is 18-24 for the most part, no matter where we go. The older crowd does not really exist. There are no single people in my age group, unless they have some serious damage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ImThatGirl Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Well, I live on the East Coast in a College town, so the age is 18-24 for the most part, no matter where we go. The older crowd does not really exist. There are no single people in my age group, unless they have some serious damage. Can you move? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
george237 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 You don't even have to move just step outside of your little area. Go out in another town or city. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Well, I live on the East Coast in a College town, so the age is 18-24 for the most part, no matter where we go. The older crowd does not really exist. There are no single people in my age group, unless they have some serious damage. you work at the college or something? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ycmanvs Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 I could move if I met someone, but I will not move just to meet someone. I do not work at the college. I have many friends in the area, so I have a social circle. Unfortunately, none of the friends are single, or know single people. There is a huge POLY community here and that also makes it difficult for someone who is looking for monogamy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ycmanvs Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 There is a birthday party on Saturday for one of my friends. It is a cruise, so hopefully there will be at least one single guy there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drewciouS281 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 stop looking or hoping or even expecting someone. Just know that someone will find thier way to you soon. Dont hold any doubts in your head because from your posts thats all it sounds like. Only imagine recieving the end result Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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