Ahhh Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 So the girl I’ve been dating pretty much dumped me last night. I had this feeling it was going to happen (same feeling I got when I knew it was over with my ex). She was cool about it, explained to me why and all, but I think I might be in loser denial. She said that I couldn’t handle her taste for life and in the bedroom. That most guys give her whatever she wants and worship the ground she walks on. She said I need more confidence, not so much when talking to a girl, but when making decisions on what to do and especially in the bedroom. All true I guess, but could I really be that bad a date? Could I be that bad at sex? Obviously I couldn’t give her what she wanted (which she said she didn’t even know what that was) and I appreciated her honesty, but my brain feels like a scrambled egg. I hate dating, I effin suck at it! How the hell am I supposed to hold on to someone when this girl had me figured out in 2 months of dating. Christ, people on this forum figured me out after reading one post. Idk, part of me is glad that I got to date a good looking girl, sleep with her, have fun, have her tell me what I did wrong when it was over, and help me realize we weren’t right for each other. The rest of me is bruised, angry and confused why I can’t get it together, can’t satisfy a woman, and in denial that I could be that bad at this. I must be. *sigh*. Sorry for the rant, had to get this off my chest. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Sorry that happened to you. But if she is THAT shallow, do you really want to be with her? C'mon now - you're only 28. Chin up. You'll get another girl real soon! My best ~Allie Link to comment
riley123 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 She said that I couldn’t handle her taste for life and in the bedroom. That most guys give her whatever she wants and worship the ground she walks on. Well, she certainly holds herself in high regard, doesn't she? I agree with Allie, she sounds shallow and completely self-absorbed. Believe it or not she did you a favor by cutting you loose. You now have more dating experience and can go find someone you're compatible with. Don't let this girl bankrupt your confidence. Just put it behind you and move on. Link to comment
Steve 7745 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 I could give you a few pointers, but we'll have to take it over to the sex forums, not here. Link to comment
Carmine Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 That most guys give her whatever she wants and worship the ground she walks on. You're only in loser denial if you take this seriously and don't recognize that there's something wrong with HER, not you, for believing this. Link to comment
Ahhh Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 Well, she certainly holds herself in high regard, doesn't she? I agree with Allie, she sounds shallow and completely self-absorbed. Believe it or not she did you a favor by cutting you loose. You now have more dating experience and can go find someone you're compatible with. Don't let this girl bankrupt your confidence. Just put it behind you and move on. Yeah I can't believe I couldn't see how shallow she was, but at least she was honest about it. She coulda strung me along for a while im sure. Sorry that happened to you. But if she is THAT shallow, do you really want to be with her? C'mon now - you're only 28. Chin up. You'll get another girl real soon! My best ~Allie Thanks Allie. Link to comment
Ahhh Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 You're only in loser denial if you take this seriously and don't recognize that there's something wrong with HER, not you, for believing this. Im not taking that too serious cause I don't believe in spoiling someone with gifts just to keep them. I was more concerned with the obvious lack of confidence and poor bedroom performance. Which bty has nothing to do with faulty equipment, or a quick finish, but rather lack of passion. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 see your problem now? you are constantly questioning yourself. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 I think you dodged a bullet! She sounds like a big loser. Be grateful her royal highness is not interested...it leaves you free to find someone who lives on planet earth. Link to comment
Ahhh Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 see your problem now? you are constantly questioning yourself. Yeah*sigh*...I question everthing. I have no conviction when it comes to women & dating. My reasoning is that I'd rather know then assume, so I ask. I need to change this. My need for constant approval sickens me. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Yeah*sigh*...I question everthing. I have no conviction when it comes to women & dating. My reasoning is that I'd rather know then assume, so I ask. I need to change this. My need for constant approval sickens me. if you don't like that aspect about yourself, then yes, you need to work on bettering it. Link to comment
CaptainPlanet Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Dunno, thats chicks for ya. Keep at it I guess.. She'll probably end up all burn't out and bitter once her looks fade anyway. Just forget her. Link to comment
Ahhh Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 Dunno, thats chicks for ya. Keep at it I guess.. She'll probably end up all burn't out and bitter once her looks fade anyway. Just forget her. Yeah, I know its best that it didn't work out even though I wanted it to (if she didn't turn out to be a high maintenance gold digger as I found out), but that's not what bothers me. It's the fact that I had to lay there and listen to why I suck as a dater. It was humbling and embarrassing and mostly true. Live and learn I guess. Link to comment
Maya_A Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 It's the fact that I had to lay there and listen to why I suck as a dater. It was humbling and embarrassing and mostly true. Live and learn I guess. ^^^ Why do you think it's true? Just because she said it? People's judgments of others really have nothing to do the other. They are merely a perception based on their own prejudices, biases, & ego beliefs in life. The problem is not at all what she said, but that you think believe it and think that of yourself. You likely do not "suck" at dating any more or less than anyone else is good or needs to work at different aspects of it. We are all in the same boat in that sense when it comes to relationships. Also, dating women more compatible to you (i.e. less shallow, etc.) might give you a whole different experience. Best of luck... Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted August 14, 2008 Share Posted August 14, 2008 Start believing in yourself. If you don't believe in you, no one else will either. My best... ~Allie Link to comment
Ahhh Posted August 14, 2008 Author Share Posted August 14, 2008 I should clarify that the conversation was more like her telling me what I should've done, which was be a little more aggressive and confidant in my actions and desicions. That part is true cause as we all know, confidance is king. It was kinda like that show blind date, when those notes pop up; "And here's where he blows it!" In a weird way I appriciate her honesty, she could of gave the old "it's not you its me" bs. In the end, I've learned a few things. To BE CONFIDANT & believe in myself. I realized we weren't compatible and at least I found out in 2 months and not 2 years. Not gonna let this break my stride & Im ready to find a girl who appricates me for me! Wheeeew! I feel better! Thanks everyone! This is a great site! Link to comment
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