Mr Miagi Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 I had a confusing situation happen the other day, and I dont have many trusted blokes or ladies I can talk too about such issues! For a number of months, I have been to different "events" through mutual friends with a woman I really get on with well. We dont have many hobbies in common, but we have a lot of fun when we are together regardless, in any situation. I should add to this post I thought I had discovered signs of interest, like light touching, starring, etc etc. Well, its has been something like 3 years since I properly asked someone out. Im not the most confident bloke with women I start to fancy, and the last two attempts ended the same as this one, the friend zone. I desperately avoided this "super nice dude" persona this time, but remained my normal self. The woman and I were talking online (I know I know), and we were talking about getting together alone to go and find some of our favorite desert, icecream cake! (I thought this was a cool idea for a date BTW!?) We both had incompatible schedules, so I asked if she would mind me calling her on the weekend to organise something (was this a bad idea?). A short while later, I apologised for asking online, and her reply was she really loves meeting me out, and has a ball when we do, but she doesnt want and I quote "anything else". I respected this, and thanked her for telling me now rather than latter, and it was good getting the "I wonder how she feels about me" question off my chest. I cant help but wonder however, what, if anything, I did, or should have done to make this go smoother. Ive taken this as a learning curve to ask face to face from now on, and instead of sulking, im enjoying the mental freedom from not thinking about her as much. Is it rediculous to ask "can I call on the weekend to organise something"? I thought it was polite! As you can tell, I need some third party thoughts! Link to comment
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