bellanicola003 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Hi there! Well I think it's safe to say that we are all hurting over a breakup and most of us are in NC. I think it's also safe to say that 98% of us are dying inside by what's happened, hence the reason we all have come here. I myself am hurting quite a bit but today I learned something that helped me. I learned that when we break up with someone or take a break from someone that we are setting BOUNDARIES for ourselves to protect the person that we are! HOW AMAZING IS THAT?! That we, as loving human beings, can hit a point where we just can't take it anymore and say "ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!!" We all do it for whatever reason...but did you ever think of it as you standing up for yourself because you KNOW that you deserve better?! Because that is exactly what you have done! You are working hard at finding in life what you truly want out of a relationship! You are searching for what you want, whether that be with your ex or someone new! We are allowed to set boundaries to protect ourselves, you have just taken the first step in protecting your heart, your mind, your soul! Isn't that a beautiful thought?! Posted below is a website on the signs of a healthy relationship! I pray we can all find this with either our exes or someone that was intended just for us! Good Luck to us all! link removed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melrich Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Hi there! Well I think it's safe to say that we are all hurting over a breakup and most of us are in NC. I think it's also safe to say that 98% of us are dying inside by what's happened, hence the reason we all have come here. Sorry I am not trying to point the finger at you on this, more using this post as an example. I see this so many times in posts. But we should remember, people come here for all sorts of reasons, not just relationship break ups and NC. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bellanicola003 Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 Exactly the reason I posted it in the "Breaking up" Section of the forum! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
desi1987 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Lol..makes sense to me as well. I have discovered that people can really nitpick on this site. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melrich Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Exactly the reason I posted it in the "Breaking up" Section of the forum! LOL...yes that is true. And as I said I didn't really want to point the finger at you in particular, just highlight that many people reading these posts are not actually going through a break up or a situation of NC. The site is far more diverse and people jump from forum to forum addressing a wide range of issues. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bellanicola003 Posted August 13, 2008 Author Share Posted August 13, 2008 No problem! I understand! I was just hoping that what I learned could help others and this seemed like the best place to put it! I just hope whoever reads it can benefit from it in one way or another...especially the link! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alicia85 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Thank you this post really helped me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cognitive_Canine Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 LOL...yes that is true. And as I said I didn't really want to point the finger at you in particular, just highlight that many people reading these posts are not actually going through a break up or a situation of NC. The site is far more diverse and people jump from forum to forum addressing a wide range of issues. well, even if a member isn't here for dealing with a breakup, we all go through breakups at some time or another (at least I do It's a nice reminder no matter what stage of healing that we are at. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kahdeksan Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Hey, thanks for posting this... From that list of things I only lack the first one, which was a serious relationship with my ex... but that was because we were stuck in a poisonous environment... and I didn't want to leave her on her own, nor could I kick her out, just wasn't right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Casey-Rae Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 Thanks a lot for posting this. Tbh I'm only in this section to see if my experience can help others, but this is a really beautiful way of looking at breaking up, I think it could help a lot of people Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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