How come some girls can't even respond back to you when you say a friendly hey to them?

[Aaron20b]

I was walking by a few districts and I was in a good mood and sometimes when I walk pass somebody I like to say "Hi" or "hey" just to be nice and friendly. so I saw these 2 cute looking girls walking by. I wanted to say "Hey" to them so I went more towards there direction so I can walk pass them. right when I was about to walk pass them. I look at them with a smile and both of them looked at me. I said "Heey"

 

They didn't respond. they just looked at me while walking pass and didn't even look back or anything. there expression didn't even change.....

 

so whats the deal here?

[Superfreak]

When a stranger says hi to me on a busy street, I usually assume they're talking to someone else. Alternatively, alot of people are in their own little zones and take time to process "someone said "hi" I should say it back" when it's said unexpectedly.

 

Or maybe you just said hi to a pair of grade-A *itches, who knows? When it comes down to it it doesn't really matter whether they say it back or not, their could be a million reasons, few will have to do with you specifically.

[AnotherBrokenDoll]

Perhaps they felt a little intimidated by you.

[Cognitive_Canine]

When a stranger says hi to me on a busy street, I usually assume they're talking to someone else. Alternatively, alot of people are in their own little zones and take time to process "someone said "hi" I should say it back" when it's said unexpectedly.

Or maybe you just said hi to a pair of grade-A *itches, who knows? When it comes down to it it doesn't really matter whether they say it back or not, their could be a million reasons, few will have to do with you specifically.

 

i agree with this. I will sometimes not realize people I am good friends with are even talking to me.

 

But, it could also be from where they are from. In the north, it is quite common to ignore people like this for safety's sake. I grew up around detroit and I was always told to never say hi back to any strange men.

[Crush85]

I was walking by a few districts and I was in a good mood and sometimes when I walk pass somebody I like to say "Hi" or "hey" just to be nice and friendly. so I saw these 2 cute looking girls walking by. I wanted to say "Hey" to them so I went more towards there direction so I can walk pass them. right when I was about to walk pass them. I look at them with a smile and both of them looked at me. I said "Heey"

 

They didn't respond. they just looked at me while walking pass and didn't even look back or anything. there expression didn't even change.....

 

so whats the deal here?

 

Because you're a guy and they don't know you. It's a safety thing. But it could be very likely that they saw you and weren't interested.

[lanty3]

Perhaps they feel you're trying to compel them into responding. Nobody likes being forced to do anything. You said you say this when you see "two cute girls" or "someone you like". Maybe your body language or the look on your face or the way you say "heey" gives them the impression you're not just being friendly. In any case it's not unusual for young ladies to be defensive with strangers.

[Aaron20b]

it wasn't crowded at all. it was near a parking lot and nobody else was around..

[Cognitive_Canine]

it wasn't crowded at all. it was near a parking lot and nobody else was around..

 

that's scarier. Probably why they didn't respond.

[Aaron20b]

that's scarier. Probably why they didn't respond.

 

well...it wasn't like there was NOBODY around but nobody around those girls or me. I was right behind a starbucks and there were many other districts..

[Cognitive_Canine]

well...it wasn't like there was NOBODY around but nobody around those girls or me. I was right behind a starbucks and there were many other districts..

 

well, you did say that you deviated by your path to pass by them. That's a red flag right there.

 

Just saying man, it'd freak me out 3 times out of 5.

[bijoux27]

Sometimes I'd say hi to strangers, sometimes I ignore them. Don't take it personal. My mom tells me not to talk to strangers

[lila...]

When a stranger says hi to me on a busy street, I usually assume they're talking to someone else. Alternatively, alot of people are in their own little zones and take time to process "someone said "hi" I should say it back" when it's said unexpectedly.

 

Or maybe you just said hi to a pair of grade-A *itches, who knows? When it comes down to it it doesn't really matter whether they say it back or not, their could be a million reasons, few will have to do with you specifically.

 

I was posting my reply when I read your post and saw you made all the points I was going to make I think most of the time, at least with me, the reason is that we're in our own little zones and an unexpected "Hey" from a stranger will throw us off guard, and by time we react it's too late to reply. I'm not really paranoid about the safety issue but I know some girls do think about that.

[ghost69]

'hey' seems more personal and like 'i know you' than the casual 'hi'. but people you don't know don't owe you anything. stop reading into it.

[StrawberryYogurt]

I don't say hi back to people either. I assume any strange person talking to me is probably selling me something or begging for change.

[star2008]

I wouldn't say hi if a male stranger said hi to me. I wouldn't want to give him the impression that I wanted to talk to him.

 

Do you get many guys saying hi back to you?

[Steve 7745]

"Hi" and "Hey" are neither interesting nor attention getting. Try asking a question to them, like, "How was your day?"

[ghost69]

"Hi" and "Hey" are neither interesting nor attention getting. Try asking a question to them, like, "How was your day?"

 

i think that is more weird than hi.

 

if you are at a coffee shop for example, ask about the drink she got. if just passing by a girl, give a smile. that's it. if she smiles back and you feel it was a signal, ask her name.

[Zampotne]

I don't respond to guys that randomly say hi to me.

 

If you say hi back that gives them to opportunity to try to strike up a conversation and hit on you. It's a waste of both my time and his time because I have a boyfriend.

 

Plus some guys are impossible to get rid of. They don't take hints.

 

If I was single? Ehhh... I'd probably say hi and walk faster. Too many sickos out there.

[burnttoast]

I never respond if I don't know the person. It's not that I'm a * * * * * , it's just that there are crazies out there who take a smile or a response of any kind as permission to TOUCH. And that's not cool.

I started out being personable with strangers who said hi or hey or whatever but it proved to be too dangerous in a city

[ConfusedDater]

I never respond if I don't know the person. It's not that I'm a * * * * * , it's just that there are crazies out there who take a smile or a response of any kind as permission to TOUCH. And that's not cool.

I started out being personable with strangers who said hi or hey or whatever but it proved to be too dangerous in a city

 

 

 

You are not supposed to smile to every strange man that say hi, I told my friend that because it makes them think you are interested if you are not. So i would say just say hi without showing your teeth.

 

 

If i went outside right now and said hello to a pretty girl and she smiled, why wouldn't I think she wasn't interested in me?