wish4me Posted August 12, 2008 Share Posted August 12, 2008 I've been dating my bf for 10 months. He's sweet caring, loving and can't do enough for me. If I want something or need something done all I have to do is ask. We both went to a cookout on the weekend. His school mate (the one he has often pointed out in his HS year book) and her husband were also there. They all went to school together and have known each other for many years. We had a great time and had so much fun playing BUZZ on the PS2. On our way home, we starting talking and he mentioned how he could not believe how old their children were. It made him feel old. We then got home and I mentioned that I was a little relieved to leave when we did because her husband (who my bf nearly got into a fight with, back a year or more ago) started to get a little rowdy. I told him how sorry I felt for her having to put up with him. She is a very sweet girl - BTW we both worked together too! When we laid down, I asked him why he never asked her out in HS to which he replied "I just didn't". He has known and worked with her father for many years and went onto say that "they were like brother and sister, and he loved her as a friend but never felt the connection". When he said this my body felt it was going into shut down mode. I laid awake most of the night worrying if something would ever become of it. We both woke up early Sunday and I started to get upset. He didn't realize how much it hurt me (I had never heard him talk like that before about another woman) and he reassured me that he never had or never will have that connection with her. She was a close friend that went to school with him, he knew her family and cared for them like an extended family. He told me that the only person he wanted to be with was me and he needed me to feel happy with him and that I was the one he wanted to spend the rest of his life with. I started thinking why he hadn't been married - was it because he wanted to stay single in the hopes that they may divorce and be with her. (I wasn't hatelful when I asked). He reassured me that he never got married because he loved to work and never really had the time to date. Despite his reassurance I felt like I had fallen from the top of a ladder! My hopes, feelings sank immediately. Couldn't look at him in the eyes for the rest of the morning. I know my insecurity comes from an experience with my X who left me unexpectidly for someone else. Am I to believe him and leave things go or is this a red flag? Thank you Kelly Link to comment
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