Date tomorrow advice needed

[Godwin]

Got a blind date tomorrow, have seen a couple of pictures and emails have been exchanged but dont know this girl.

 

We both seem quite suited but as its only my second date in 7 years I am looking for some advice. I am actually quite nervous...

 

a) Is it acceptable to discuss your 'situation'? ie the fact I was in a relationship for 7 years??? Its strikes me as difficult to be totally honest with someone if your hiding something so major as a 7 year relationship.

 

b) Say we have a great night, we have things in common, how should I leave it? Quick kiss on the cheek? Pat on the arm?

 

c) Who should be first to text after the date? The man or woman?

 

d) Also I have another date with a different girl next week, IF we get on tomorrow should I still go on that date? ie Can I date two people?

 

HELP!!!!!!

[Gratsy]

You don't owe her anything this soon. Just go and have fun for now.

[amipushy]

a)I would mention it only if it was brought up and couldnt be avoided but I wouldnt make it the first thing I said or bring it up just to get it out in the open. You've moved on and are there for her, not to talk about your past.

 

b) Peck on the cheek is fine.

 

c) Women prefer the man to text first.

 

d) Depends on how you feel after the date, if you want some practice then go for girl number two but if you would prefer have a second date with the first one then do that. It's up to you.

[robinhood]

Everything is your choice.

 

But for the last question, I say go for it. You are basically doubling your chances, that is all. It is quite rare for both of them to work out.

[Gratsy]

I don't prefer texts at all....I think they're for wimps and I won't ever respond to a text.

[amipushy]

I don't prefer texts at all....I think they're for wimps and I won't ever respond to a text.

 

I actually prefer them if it's someone online in the early days but each to our own.

[annie24]

a - no, i would not bring up the relationship unless she asks you point blank. and if she does, just bring it up in passing as in, 'yes, i was in a relationship for 7 years, but we've both moved on now....'

 

b - kiss on the cheek sounds nice

 

c - texting is oh-so-lame. you are 30 years old!!! call her. i prefer the man calls me after a date.

 

d - it's still early, she is probably seeing/meeting others too. go on the date with the other girl this week and see what happens, and decide from there.

 

good luck

[ghost69]

well, it's not a blind date. you've seen a picture.

 

discuss whatever you feel comfortable with.

[brian123]

A) Don't bring it up at all!

b) I'd say atleast a hug, gauge how things go from there

c) If you buy dinner, the girl should/usually thank you the next day for buying.

d) Dating 2 people is fine. I usually try to do 3

 

 

Just be yourself. Be confident. Be the prize. Don't get too deep into yourself, treat it almost an interview. You are seeing if she is good enough for you! But obviously be polite and respectful the entire time.

[riley123]

a) Is it acceptable to discuss your 'situation'? ie the fact I was in a relationship for 7 years??? Its strikes me as difficult to be totally honest with someone if your hiding something so major as a 7 year relationship.

 

I don't think you should go into any detail about your prior relationship. Just say you're recently out of a long-term relationship. And don't say anything negative about your ex.

 

b) Say we have a great night, we have things in common, how should I leave it? Quick kiss on the cheek? Pat on the arm?

If it's a great night and there obvious chemistry, then give her a quick kiss.

 

c) Who should be first to text after the date? The man or woman?

 

Again, if you had fun then I think it would be fine to send her a text a day or so later telling her that. But don't ask her out on another date through a text -- call her.

 

d) Also I have another date with a different girl next week, IF we get on tomorrow should I still go on that date? ie Can I date two people?

 

Yes, absolutely. Dating is about meeting people and figuring out who you enjoy being around the most. You're out of a LTR -- I think it would be healthy for you to resolve that you're just going to 'date' and not be exclusive with any one lady, for the time being.

 

Relax and have fun. Enjoy yourself and your date -- this is the fun part!

[Godwin]

Thanks for the advice folks.

 

I guess I need to stop having expectations and realise its only a DATE. I think I put too much pressure on myself in these situations and over analyse things.

 

I will stick to being polite, articulate and respectful, if we get on then great, if not then I will just need to move on to the next one.

 

I will be back on Thursday morning with more questions