I love her...I think?

[dapar321]

I met this girl on facebook who lives about 6 hours or so away from me. We have been talking for about a month now, and I feel like I love her, but at the same time, I feel as if I'll just end up getting hurt. It has gotten pretty extreme too, we exchange the three words like a lott on AIM and we even joke around with getting married some day. Only thing is, I feel like I am not joking. I feel like all I want is to get rid of my insecurity of being alone and not finding anyone. I just don't know. Neither of us have our driver's licenses yet, and we're at the point where we should. I feel insecure because college is coming up, so I will be working and going to class full time and i wont have the time to go there to be with her. I dont know what to do because I don't want her to take it upon herself if we dont end up together, because something terrible happened to her with a past BF. I love her, I think. What should I do?

[redhearts]

Well you should somehow meet in the future. I mean if your not 18 you guys don't have your own place so a hotel, and you have to be 18 usually to check into one. I'm saying a hotel so if you drive 6 hours then you can stay at one for the weekend and just hang out, so you have somewhere to stay.

[Edak]

Man. I have nothing against meeting people online. I've done it serveral times in fact. But I personally feel that knowing someone's mind and how they present themselves through words only isn't enough to love a person. You have to know that person, inside and out no questions asked before you could truly love them.

 

Sure, maybe there's the potential for love there, I'm sure there is. But you still have so many unknowns between the two of you. Simple things like how she reacts to situations you've been in, or the way she smiles for different emotions.

 

You really should explore these things before you two get caught up too much. And by that I mean meeting. I've see pictures and talked to a girl on several occasions where I felt really good about it, only to meet them in real life and who they are as a person in reality was nothing like I hope for slash nothing I've ever been into. Keep an open mind obviously, but above all, I really think you should meet before you can know.

 

 

EDIT: I've also had situations where I've met a girl online, and she was all and more than I could have hoped for.

[redhearts]

It is true, that people can play up being someone on-line and then when it comes down to it and you meet them, they are completely different. What if your just a person she talks to and in reality has a bf or something? To put it honestly if she was really really good looking I highly doubt she wouldn't have a bf.