Am I wrong?

[Black_star]

I am posting this because I just need some advice on how to feel about it.

 

Recently got back with my ex and things have been going ok but not too great. There are some issues that I need to bring p with him, some small and some big.

 

I brought one of the smaller issues up today and this may sound silly but it was about him putting kisses on the end of wall posts to girls on facebook. I know it probably means nothing but it makes me uncomfortable especially when he puts more kisses to them than he does to me and sometimes doesn't put kisses on mine at all.

 

He says they're just friends and I believe him but he doesn't put kisses on the end of wall posts to his male friends? What I don't understand is why, if theyre just friend and in the same category as male friends he feels the need to put kisses just because they are female?

 

When I brought it up he said I have to just accept it because he isn't going to stop doing it and told me it was tough basically.

 

I know it's a small issue but if it's so small and the kisses mean nothing shouldn't he be able to stop doing it because it makes me feel uncomfortable?

[Meatyka]

Well i can understand what you mean, and he shouldnt really do it.

Your his girlfriend, he should be doing it to you.

 

And he wont put kisses on hsi guy friends wall either, because guys dont do that.

 

I dont know what he is like so i cant exactly suggest anything as something may happen.

[SapphireNoir10]

I always put kisses on teh end of messages to ANYONE regardless of whether they are male or female. Im guesisng he doesnt think about it or think much of it.

 

It makes you look a bit jealous and petty...Hes with you, not the other girls. Its just a sign off sort of thing.

[kaoticbaby]

 

When I brought it up he said I have to just accept it because he isn't going to stop doing it and told me it was tough basically.

yes, it's a small issue. yes, it may sound petty.

 

but i don't understand why he can't just stop doing it if it really bothers her. it's just such a small thing that would affect nobody if he stopped. all he has to do is not type "xxx" at the end of a comment. and i doubt the girls would even notice. so why can't he stop doing it if it bothers her?

 

it's not an issue that he leaves girls kisses, it's an issue that he blatantly disrespects her wishes to stop when it's such a small thing that would prevent a potential fight.

[Black_star]

Thanks for your replies. I do feel I am being a bit petty, but a friend is a friend whether theyre male or female so why not treat all friends the same? Just because theyre female doesnt mean they require or should expect kisses on the end of messages.

 

Also If I was doing the same and it bothered him I would have no problem stopping out of respect for his feelings

[DN]

Well, if it bothers you I think he should stop because it shouldn't really be a big deal for him to do that.

 

As for friends - I will kiss my female friends on the cheek but not my male friends. It doesn't mean I want anything more than friendship from the females, it's just the way I am.

[annie24]

When I brought it up he said I have to just accept it because he isn't going to stop doing it and told me it was tough basically.

 

blah. i also don't see why he can't stop, especially if it is bothering you. i agree with DN, guys don't 'kiss' each other the way that a man might kiss a female friend on the cheek or two women may kiss hello. but i don't like the way he is just telling you, 'it's my way or the highway.' it's not really great for a 'sign of good faith' when trying to get back together.

 

what are the other issues you guys are having?

[Black_star]

Um lots of little things. Just seems that when we first started going out together again he was very affectionate and all that and now already a few weeks down the line he seems to have become less interested.

 

It does seem like it has to be his way or no way. I'm starting to feel sick contantly because I couldn't go through a break up like I did again. I'm scared to check his fb page incase of what might be on there too.

[just mEe]

sometimes men just suck. they usually dont mean it, they just like the attention sometimes from other women.

 

he should at least care about how u feel towards the issue and attempt to stop. if he doesnt, the issue will just get worse.