what is the meanest thing someone has ever said to you?

[SeaBisquit]

my boyfriend just told me that my sister is way better than me. way smarter, way prettier. he said that he wishes that he was with her instead of me.

[Segan]

Ouch. I was once told by a close friend that I look like a blind burn victim, which was not nice because I have a skin problem (not that noticeable, but a little discoloration on my face).

 

That guy is probably not someone you want to be with.

[hockeyboy]

my boyfriend just told me that my sister is way better than me. way smarter, way prettier. he said that he wishes that he was with her instead of me.

 

and you're still with him?

[Clementine orange]

my boyfriend just told me that my sister is way better than me. way smarter, way prettier. he said that he wishes that he was with her instead of me.

 

Tell him you'd rather be with his grandfather...or his hamster or something. Then cut him off.

[Clementine orange]

The meanest thing someone said to me turned out to be the most astute thing and spurred me on to making some serious life changes. I was grateful...eventually

[ImThatGirl]

my boyfriend just told me that my sister is way better than me. way smarter, way prettier. he said that he wishes that he was with her instead of me.

 

More info would be helpful. Did he just straight out say this out of nowhere?

[browneyedgirl36]

Tell him you'd rather be with his grandfather...or his hamster or something. Then cut him off.

 

Exactly. And, when you say it, you might sigh dramatically, look heavenward, and say wistfully, "Ah, if only..."

 

Seriously, your boyfriend is a complete ass if he said that to you. I really hope you called him on it. I won't advise you to dump him, because I have a feeling you won't but...sheesh. You can do better than someone who says stuff like that.

[keenan]

my boyfriend just told me that my sister is way better than me. way smarter, way prettier. he said that he wishes that he was with her instead of me.

 

That trumps whatever I've got.

 

I assume he's no longer your boyfriend?

[browneyedgirl36]

The meanest thing someone ever said to me: In 7th grade, I was buying a ticket to a school dance, and one of the really awful boys in my class was standing nearby, and he said this:

 

"I don't know what you're buying a ticket for. No one would dance with you anyway."

 

Anyone who believes that words can't hurt people is way off base. This statement was made to me 25 years ago, and I still remember it like it was yesterday. It (and other similar statements made by other peers), completely obliterated my self-esteem, and it has taken me years to get it back.

[browneyedgirl36]

The meanest thing someone said to me turned out to be the most astute thing and spurred me on to making some serious life changes. I was grateful...eventually

 

This happened to me, too. My mother once told me that I had gained a lot of weight and that I didn't look good at all. It REALLY hurt me at the time -- I really resented her -- but looking back, she was completely right, and while it didn't spur me to immediate action, eventually I got sick of my bad eating habits and got into shape, and I look/feel better than I ever have, and my confidence has improved exponentially.

 

Sometimes, people DO have to be cruel to be kind; as long as it's done out of love and genuine concern, I can't argue with it.

[Clementine orange]

The meanest thing someone ever said to me: In 7th grade, I was buying a ticked to a school dance, and one of the really awful boys in my class was standing nearby, and he said this:

 

"I don't know what you're buying a ticket for. No one would dance with you anyway."

 

Anyone who believes that words can't hurt people is way off base. This statement was made to me 25 years ago, and I still remember it like it was yesterday. It (and other similar statements made by other peers), completely obliterated my self-esteem, and it has taken me years to get it back.

 

Yeah, it's strange how we carry these things around with us for so long. I've got a few in my "luggage" as well. I can still remember them. It's like a hang nail that won't go away.

[doyathink]

Tell him you'd rather be with his grandfather...or his hamster or something. Then cut him off.

 

I'll take door # 2, Alex. I hear hamsters and gerbils rock!

[JadedStar]

my boyfriend just told me that my sister is way better than me. way smarter, way prettier. he said that he wishes that he was with her instead of me.

 

OMG! I can't imagine he could be so cruel! Please tell me you are going to break up with him?????

[amtjrtcet]

Tell him you'd rather be with his grandfather...or his hamster or something. Then cut him off.

 

Yeah, or tell him he has a small member and that his best friend is waaaaay better in bed then he is...

[barbielovesmac]

my boyfriend just told me that my sister is way better than me. way smarter, way prettier. he said that he wishes that he was with her instead of me.

 

and you're still with him? if so, why?

 

that's an absolute HORRIBLE thing to say to your girlfriend. boy would be walking to timbuck 2 by now...

 

hope you didn't stand for that.

[unabashed]

Probably the meanest thing anyone said to me was in 5th grade. A girl who had been my best friend in school, told me at the end of the year that she had just been my friend because she felt sorry for me. It wasn't like I didn't have other friends. I never forgot that feeling of betrayal and confusion.

 

I had a boyfriend who broke up with me by pretending that he didn't know me. He had to "go away" for a while and said he'd call when he returned. When I didn't hear from him for a few weeks, I called his work, and he answered the phone. When I said who I was, he claimed that he had never heard of me. A direct break up would have been much kinder than that.

[browneyedgirl36]

Probably the meanest thing anyone said to me was in 5th grade. A girl who had been my best friend in school, told me at the end of the year that she had just been my friend because she felt sorry for me. It wasn't like I didn't have other friends. I never forgot that feeling of betrayal and confusion.

 

I had a boyfriend who broke up with me by pretending that he didn't know me. He had to "go away" for a while and said he'd call when he returned. When I didn't hear from him for a few weeks, I called his work, and he answered the phone. When I said who I was, he claimed that he had never heard of me. A direct break up would have been much kinder than that.

 

Oh, good lord! I've never heard of someone breaking up like this! That must have been terrible. Yes, a direct break-up would have been a lot kinder, but clearly that guy was a creep, and he did you a huge favor -- he saved you from him, for sure.

 

I thought I'd heard/read it all, but this is one of the worst ways to break up that I've ever heard of.

[keenan]

When I didn't hear from him for a few weeks, I called his work, and he answered the phone. When I said who I was, he claimed that he had never heard of me. A direct break up would have been much kinder than that.

 

Wow. Cuckoo for cocoa puffs, that guy.

[ImThatGirl]

Probably the meanest thing anyone said to me was in 5th grade. A girl who had been my best friend in school, told me at the end of the year that she had just been my friend because she felt sorry for me. It wasn't like I didn't have other friends. I never forgot that feeling of betrayal and confusion.

 

I had a boyfriend who broke up with me by pretending that he didn't know me. He had to "go away" for a while and said he'd call when he returned. When I didn't hear from him for a few weeks, I called his work, and he answered the phone. When I said who I was, he claimed that he had never heard of me. A direct break up would have been much kinder than that.

 

 

Oh my!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[jettison]

Well, I'm not sure. If people are mean to me then I rarely acknowledge it, and I definitely don't internalize it. That's a great fringe benefit that comes with believing that you are usually right, and that others are usually wrong.

 

However, I met a set of twins at a birthday party about a month ago. I was kind of flirting with one, and then the other one came up to chat as well. Suddenly, it felt like they were competing. I said, "What makes you two different? I can hardly tell you apart." The one sister said, "Well, I'm much smarter. My sister is kind of dumb," and then she laughed. The dissed sister looked exceedingly annoyed. It was funny in an innocent kind of way I suppose.

[metrogirl]

My ex-husband called me a baby murderer.

 

^That is one of the reasons he's my ex-husband!

[ghost69]

tell him that every time you have sex with him you feel like spaghetti cause that's how it feels. then walk off and never answer his calls, texts, or messages or anything.

 

i think the worst i've said to a girl was that 'yes, you are fat.' what? she asked.

[ImThatGirl]

The meanest things ever said to me was by my ex - my daughters dad. He tore me apart up and down - I was lazy, looking for a free ride, ugly, fat, and absolutely terrible in every way possible including my parenting.

 

It bothered me very much so. I have always worked and worked hard. I've always been independent and taken care of myself and children. Never been "fat." (besides in elementary)

 

When I left, I left with my head held high but totally thinking I needed to change myself and accomplish more. Went to school and got my associates in business management while working full time and taking care of my little ones. Got a mole by my eye (tiny little thing on the outside of my lower eye - beauty mark) and another small one by my ear (again tiny not grotesque) removed.

 

I suppose I'm glad for the fact that I went to school but now realize that I am not that terrible person he made me out to be. I always knew that... but it took awhile to remember!

 

Just so very glad that I realized that someone who could hurt another this way isn't worth wasting time on.

[Jelina]

The meanest thing someone has ever told me was that I talk stupid because I have the voice of a little girl. Which sucks because people have said this comment to me my whole life, and everytime it hurts me even more.

 

They come in different ways too, like someone in junior high told me I should never be allowed to talk and just make pretend I'm mute, my brothers and sisters imitate everything I say to them in little girl voices, once I went to Walgreens and their copy machine wasn't working and I told a guy who worked there and he was like " Oooh it's not working" in a little baby voice. Or another time I was in an elevator with a now ex friend and I had just finished talking to her and then she repeats the whole sentence in a little girl voice, taunts me, calls me names in front of an elevator full of people. I was speechless. She might have as well just taken a knife and stabbed me repeatedly in my heart.

[ghost69]

usually people attack when they feel low. especially if it was out of nowhere.