cody41 Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 I would really love to hear from happily married people.... -When did you know it was the right time? -How did you know if was the right person? -Aside from the ups & downs of life, how did you know you were willing to make that lifelong commitment? -How did you know you no longer wondered what else was out there? -Did you know you would grow together and not grow apart? -Did you know this was the person you wanted to have your children with? I am 26 and engaged and I have to admit, I just don't understand my feelings towards marriage... I have so many questions and doubts in my mind and don't even trust myself enough to know if I am on the right track or not... Like I said, I am engaged.. This is my second long-term. My first was 5 years long and this one is 2 years so far. I lived with both of them, I have no problems dealing with the commitment, shared space, conflict resolution, giving up single life... I am definitely not a commitment-phobe as I have always considered myself the relationship type. I just prefer to have my partner as my best close friend and enjoy a close companionship as opposed to single life. Now my question is WHY on earth did I leave my relationship after 5 years? We were the best of friends.. Sure it lost the spark, and although I was very attracted to him (we made a beautiful couple) I just didn't feel he was growing up enough and I went through this sowing my wild oats stage... so we parted (he was devastated). My current fiance, is everything on paper that I could ask for.. Financially stable, AMAZING sex life, we have fun together, he definitely makes me laugh.. We have more conflicts than my first relationship, and fight pretty badly but we always make up. My fiance is worried as to why at 2 years I STILL have not set a wedding date.. and he really wants us to get married and start a family. But I am not ready... I always think back at my dating life... and my long-term ex.. and although I feel my fiance is wonderful, I really can't imagine going back to my ex although I do miss him alot sometimes. I feel like if I went back to my ex I would miss my fiance.. and being with my fiance I miss my ex.. I really HOPE I don't have a problem.... I just often wonder if maybe there is a perfect soul-mate out there for me... Maybe I have not met him yet? I get scared when I think about leaving my relationship to start all over again... What for? I feel like I am searching for a needle in a haystack and feel I need a slap in the face to smarten up and just get married and do this already!! Is this normal? In regards to the questions above... I could use some shared experiences on what you think about the lifelong commitments you have made.. Thank you! Link to comment
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