Do dumpers feel anything when they see their exes w someone else?

[islandj]

I saw my ex w what it appear to be someone else and although i wud like to deny it, it did bother me, perhaps because i was by myself or maybe i have some feelings, who knows..

 

i would like to know though if he would have felt the same if it were me with someone else..

[yankeefan74]

My ex will say that she doesn't care if I'm with someone else...and yet, you'll hear the anger and jealousy in her voice anyway despite the fact that SHE is with someone new. Finally, she told me that it does bother her, the idea of me being with someone else, but she "knows she can't control it." And she hates asking me if i've met someone because she really doesn't want the answer.

 

However, my ex is, apparently, insane in some ways...so i don't know if what applies to her applies to a lot of dumpers.

 

I suppose if they still love you and are attracted to you...but for whatever reason, decided it wasn't going to work...then there probably is a part of them that initially would be bothered by seeing you with someone else.

 

If there are no feelings left...other than as a friend...if there isn't that love or attraction at all anymore, then seeing their ex with someone else probably isn't that big of a deal.

[male2008]

Hi

 

Well it would depend on the situation why did he/she dump their ex.

 

In my case the relationship wasent working, we still loved each other, but their where issues. So I dumped her the issues had been to many and it wasent making us happy even though we loved each other. I mean its been 6 weeks and I would get jeoulus if I saw any guy kissing her or something. It would sting as well. I wouldnt scream or yell or beat up the guy. But it would sting.

I mean I hope she will be happy and find someone, But ofcourse it will sting the first time I see her with a new guy.

 

 

But lets say the situation was diffrent. Is she would have cheated on me I would have launched her and not given it a second thought. Wouldnt care what she did.

[jcrisph]

^^AGREE. The ex that cheated on me, i didnt care seeing her with another guy, she ended up marrying him anyways...

 

there was another ex-gf where i felt because of school situation and distance it wasnt the right time and if thing things were ment to be then it would happen. I came home and she had another bf, couldnt blame her, we were still friends but it hurt,felt like someone just ripped my heart out and thats the only time i ever felt like i might of made a really bad decision. but we are actually both single again after 2 years and have been hanging out a lot more and just taking it slow and seeing what happens =)

[IMAbadman]

I believe it will bother them to some extent regardless of how it ended. At one point they did love you... I don't think love, true love, ever totally fades away. They can put on their poker face but some part of them is still bug'n.

[Takotsubo]

^^AGREE. The ex that cheated on me, i didnt care seeing her with another guy, she ended up marrying him anyways...

 

there was another ex-gf where i felt because of school situation and distance it wasnt the right time and if thing things were ment to be then it would happen. I came home and she had another bf, couldnt blame her, we were still friends but it hurt,felt like someone just ripped my heart out and thats the only time i ever felt like i might of made a really bad decision. but we are actually both single again after 2 years and have been hanging out a lot more and just taking it slow and seeing what happens =)

 

That's a good situation you're in.

 

I still feel for my ex that cheated on me. Maybe it's too soon for me to get over it. My heart tells me one thing, but my mind tells me another. My heart longs for her to come back, yet my senses say "Are you nuts? This person is no good for you! You're way better than her!"

 

I hate that dueling emotional state. =) But it is what it is...

 

Good to know that things to work out in the end...

[ImThatGirl]

When I seen my ex was with someone else, I was a little grouchy but mostly.... just a "well... now she can see how he really is."

[thejigsup]

If he abused me or treated me bad, I would just feel sorry for whoever he was with. If it was just one of those breakups that were mutual without any rancor on either side, I would be happy for them both. If he broke up with me because he fell out of love with me or something like that, I would be a bit jealous, yes.

[bijoux27]

If he abused me or treated me bad, I would just feel sorry for whoever he was with.

 

Agreed. I haven't seen my last ex with his girl yet, but I know he has one and have seen her through Facebook. I felt nothing, except a little pity for her. She's gonna have to deal with him, haha!