Miranona Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 My boyfriend of 4 months broke up with me 12 days ago because we were unhappy because we were always fighting. Although I initiated the break up, I never went through with it, instead he did. It was a horrible break up, emotional, crying etc. By the end of it, I had to kick him out of my apartment. 2 days later he sends me a msg saying he had a rough weekend and said there were a couple of things he wanted to say but didnt know how, i wrote back saying if he wanted to talk face to face, then I could sit down. He offered to take me to dinner. Between those messages and dinner (2 days) he offered to share with me his lunch and was texting me confirming that i would not yell at him and leave at this dinner During dinner, he says that he doesnt know if he wants to get back together, that he needs time, that he misses me, and being with me makes him want to get back together. but he wants to wake up the next day and know he wants to get back, but he said he wants to see me on sunday (in 3 days)... the day after the dinner (friday), i confirm that we are seeing each other on sunday with playful flirting and he said yes. sunday morning comes, he went to a wedding, spoke to a friend and calls me and says that he wants to see me, but is confused. He says he likes me, he says he wants to get back but he cant commit right now. and that we should not hang out because he will get more confused. I asked him what is holding him back from committing he says that when he thinks of the negative times (fighting, not talking to each other) he panics. I asked him what is holding him back from saying lets go our separate ways, he says he cares for me soo much, he has feelings, and if he says that we wont speak to each other and he wants to be able to say hi to me. I,m obviously was crying.. I initiated to hang up... We both work together, tuesday (yesterday) he sends me a message saying he had an extra 3 dollars from his dinner allowance (we get dinner allowances at work) and that he got me a red bull ( i drink red bull) yesterday. He says hes been thinking about it for a full day to tell me. I respond with a simple THANK YOU (redbull still remains in fridge at work). Today, he says that he is going to get some food and that he will have extra if I want some. I said "if theres any left overs, youre welcomed to drop it off at my desk" which he does, and i say thank you. then i send him a message saying thank you, they were good. he says "anytime.." Im confused. It hasnt been 2 weeks yet and all this confusion.. my question is, we dont talk to each other all day, but at dinner time, he sends me messages. Im asking myself, does he just do this because he feels sorry that he dumped me and I was crying? Is this his way of saying " i never meant to hurt you" because while I could see it happening, why would someone be doing that in a short span of time? please help! Link to comment
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