Pugwash53 Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I have a friend who is seeing someone.They live a long distance apart and talk online but meet about say every couple of months ....the thing is,she does things like,telling everyone they meet every month (instead of every couple of months),that they've "been together" 3 years when ,although they've know each other longer they only started seeing one another like this about a year ago.The thing is,why? Why does she exaggerate these things? Link to comment
schizo Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 Maybe because a lot of people don't understand long distance relationships or think that they can work, so she tells people they have been together longer or see each other more so people wont vote against it so much. Have you asked your friend why? Link to comment
Pugwash53 Posted August 6, 2008 Author Share Posted August 6, 2008 Have you asked your friend why? No,I kind of don't want to upset her by saying she's lying (which she is of course) but it makes no odds to me,just seems odd and I couldn't think why someone would do such a thing. Link to comment
Lionel Hutz Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 Lying sucks in general. Brush it along like "really" and quickly change the subject. I tend to stay away from those who dont tell the truth. Drama usually follows for some weird reason. She might be very insecure and wants to feel like the center of attention, so she kinda inflates her real life and relationship. I wonder what she tells her boyfriend on the inverse about her friends. Fishy fishy behavior. Link to comment
Pugwash53 Posted August 6, 2008 Author Share Posted August 6, 2008 I agree,it's very odd.The other thing she'll sometimes say is that eg he stays 4 nights,when he only stays 3 I did wonder if perhaps things are not as rosy as she'd like to think and maybe she was saying this to try to convince herself and others that things are better than they really are.I dunno,that's a kinder explanation maybe than that she's just "lying"for the sake of it. Link to comment
schizo Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I agree,it's very odd.The other thing she'll sometimes say is that eg he stays 4 nights,when he only stays 3 I did wonder if perhaps things are not as rosy as she'd like to think and maybe she was saying this to try to convince herself and others that things are better than they really are.I dunno,that's a kinder explanation maybe than that she's just "lying"for the sake of it. That could be it too. There are a lot of different reasons...and you're not going to know the truth unless you ask. You don't have to be like, "Hey you stupid liar, why did you say that?" You can just ask casually, "I thought you guys were only together for this long, why did you tell him/her something different?" Or you could even just ask her if things are going ok with her and her boyfriend. Link to comment
Girl79 Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 She probably lies because she doesn't want to hear negative opinions from other people about the relationship, so she makes it sound better than it is. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 She probably lies because she doesn't want to hear negative opinions from other people about the relationship, so she makes it sound better than it is. exactly. and she probably hates the situation a little bit herself so she sugarcoats it. Link to comment
Pugwash53 Posted August 7, 2008 Author Share Posted August 7, 2008 exactly. and she probably hates the situation a little bit herself so she sugarcoats it. How do you mean ghost,that she "hates" the situation-she says/stresses just how happy she is,so I assume she is happy? Link to comment
Pugwash53 Posted August 7, 2008 Author Share Posted August 7, 2008 That could be it too. There are a lot of different reasons...and you're not going to know the truth unless you ask. You don't have to be like, "Hey you stupid liar, why did you say that?" You can just ask casually, "I thought you guys were only together for this long, why did you tell him/her something different?" Or you could even just ask her if things are going ok with her and her boyfriend. I don't mention because I don't want to upset her,I guess. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 How do you mean ghost,that she "hates" the situation-she says/stresses just how happy she is,so I assume she is happy? no, the LDR and the limited time they see each other probably bugs her. so she sugarcoats it so that nobody says anything which will upset her. she probably is somewhat happy with having the guy as her man, but not enough to be completely happy. Link to comment
Pugwash53 Posted August 7, 2008 Author Share Posted August 7, 2008 I don't know,what she says doesn't make the situation any better than it is for her does it? I mean,if she doesn't want people to say anything to upset her,she 's probably better off not talking about it,whereas she seems keen to talk about it as often as possible,so the two things don't really make sense do they? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 I don't know,what she says doesn't make the situation any better than it is for her does it? I mean,if she doesn't want people to say anything to upset her,she 's probably better off not talking about it,whereas she seems keen to talk about it as often as possible,so the two things don't really make sense do they? maybe she wants to be part of the conversation and that is the only interesting thing she has to talk about. or the only thing remotely exciting going on. i dunno why she chooses to talk about it. but i know how some girls are. they like to brag about what they have. Link to comment
Pugwash53 Posted August 10, 2008 Author Share Posted August 10, 2008 Do people think it's "lying" -as such,I mean I suppose it is in that she's exaggerating but would it make you feel wary of trusting someone who does this? Link to comment
Pugwash53 Posted August 12, 2008 Author Share Posted August 12, 2008 Anyone any views on the trust issue please? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 why are you so worried about someone else's relationship and how they talk about it? Link to comment
Pugwash53 Posted August 30, 2008 Author Share Posted August 30, 2008 why are you so worried about someone else's relationship and how they talk about it? I'm interested to know why someone would do that,it's strange. Link to comment
Pugwash53 Posted August 30, 2008 Author Share Posted August 30, 2008 She's also not telling people the truth about the age difference between them.He's twenty five years younger (but above the legal age)but she's telling people he's 19 years younger.Why would someone tell all these lies ? Link to comment
odile Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 Well, about the first lies you listed, I wanted to suggest that maybe she's really bad at keeping time. I often feel like it's been 3 days, when it's been 5, or vice versa, or forget if it's Tuesday or Friday (okay, lame examples, but you get the idea). If a relationship lasts a bit over 11 months, often I'll say "a year" just b/c it's easier. Plus, even before a relationship is "official", there will be courtship that begins (and develops, then becomes really obvious) in the friendship stages, so it may be hard to gauge w/o having been there with them during that time. So, I was going to ask if she told any other sorts of lies, b/c they all seemed to be centered around time-keeping. BUT, you might have blown my theory with that last one. Lying about the age difference? Seems pretty odd. Unless maybe she's just old-school, thinking that anyone over 30 is over-the-hill, and doesn't want anyone to know her real age? Link to comment
Pugwash53 Posted September 1, 2008 Author Share Posted September 1, 2008 Mmm,I have known her tell lies about other things two,but there seems to be so many about this particular issue. Link to comment
Pugwash53 Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 Anymore thoughts on this please? Link to comment
Ac143 Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 Only way to know why she's lying about these little things is to ask HER. We can give you 100 and 1 reasons why she "might" be doing it but they all "might" be wrong. Either way - why are you so concerned about this? R u interested in this girl? N hoping she isn't as happy as she says? Link to comment
Pugwash53 Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 Just puzzles me.Why would you think I would I wish her any unhappiness? I didn't want to accuse her of telling lies,or upset her by challenging her. Link to comment
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