GettingThere Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I need some strategy help here please. I need to find a way to get him to change his passwords, when he has no clue I know them. Readers Digest Version: INTENSE 9 month relationship from online dating site. I think we both thought we were "the one". But it didn't work out and in total shock, he threw it away about 3 months ago. I remain in shock and hurt and hence have a tendency to do really stupid things when in pain. Yes, even in our 50's, we still hurt the same.... Here's my dilemma: I have key stroke security on all of my computers, home and business. It NEVER dawned on me to ever look at anything when he would use my computers ... until we split. OK, OK, stupid I know, but after he left me in shock of walking out, a man I thought I would marry, I checked his keystrokes. Of coarse it gave me his password to his main account. Which then gave me access to his passwords to the dating sites he has again signed up for. Please, no one beat me up here. I am FULLY AWARE it is wrong. I fight against it. But, in being honest, at my weak and sad moments I have logged into not only his main account and read his mail to his family / friends, but have logged into the dating sites as well. Somehow it gives me sick pleasure that he is still out there "searching" and is obviously lonely, but I need to stop this. I can't "erase" anything, because I have his passwords in my head. So, how do I get him to change his passwords without him ever knowing I knew them in the first place????????? I really want to stop looking. But I can't and I am just being honest here. A sad moment and I do it again. Must get over him and while I have this access it is not doing me any well. Advice please? Link to comment
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