m12988 Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 To start off, the cultural difference i'm referring to is my fiance, whom is asian..and I'm white. My fiance of almost 5 years rarely shows affection (usual couple things such as hugging and kissing), and it's always been like that our whole relationship. The first 2 and a half years of our relationship was long distance, so I couldn't tell at all then, but I've been realizing it the past 3 years and asked him a while back if he really even loves me. He does, and I believe him because well, things he does and the sacrafices he's made (such as moving all the way to my state for me). So I asked him why he doesn't show as much affection as I do to him, and he said it's because he's not exactly accustomed to it. Basically, his family very very rarely shows any affection, they very rarely greet each other by hugging (which is what my family does every time). I guess it's just sorta weird to me, not weird in a bad way, just different from what i'm used to. So i'm glad I kind of got this issue resolved with my fiance, because really sometimes it just feels my affection is either not wanted or whatever. Basically, I want to know if any of you have cultural differences (I guess this slightly fits under that) such as this that you've experienced. I'm guessing after twenty-something years of being around his family he'll never change in that aspect, and will continue to be sorta non-affectionate to me. I wish there was a way I could make him open up more to hugging/kissing me. Even though he's explained it to me, I can't help sometimes feeling ignored or getting this cold vibe when I hug him and it looks like he really just doesn't want me hugging him, you know? I also have several dreams of him ignoring me. Guess this is tied to it. Link to comment
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