helplesslyhoping Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 My STBX and I are trying to get along. We have a 9 yr old daughter and we really want her to not end up any more hurt and screwed up than we are already making her by divorcing. He is over A LOT because he works 3rd shift, I work retail. Our daughter goes to day camp while he sleeps and she hangs out with him after. I try so hard to be nice but there are times I really want to kick his teeth in! He is the sole cause of our demise. He had an affair instead of talking to me about how he was feeling and now says he never loved me and we shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. When he is in my home taking care of out daughter, he often stays for several hrs after I get home, before he leaves for work. I live 30 min from his job. If he left and went back to his place it would be 30 min in the opposite direction then an hr drive back past me, to his work. That's a lot of gas to be wasting and there just isn't that kind of money to be throwing out a window. Once I get home he drops all parental responsibility on me. So here i am after a full day on my feet, at a job I had to get because he's a jerk, having to constantly be the bad parent with our daughter. I have to remind her to pick up after herself, do this, don't do that, did you remember to... while he lies on the sofa doing NOTHING! Tonight I asked him if he wanted the position as babysitter or father. A babysitter watches the child and leaves when the parent gets home. A father sticks around and guides a child. If he wants to be a babysitter, then he needs to leave when I get home. If he wants to be a father, he needs to step up and help me even if he doesn't live here. He says I'm being difficult. I say he's being an a s s. Link to comment
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