stella777 Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 my current boyfriend is the second boyfriend and sexual partner that I had. I told him that he was my second before. yesterday I asked him if he cares about his parnter being in swinging lifestyle or having threesomes before and the other day I told him about some of my cheating dreams.(stupid I know) the other thing is sometimes when I'm reading ENA and he comes I suddenly close the window and with him seeing me watching the desktop(LOL) he knows I was doing something I dont want him to know. I dont think he thinks I'm cheating, but maybe he thinks I am a lier or something. Now I feel like he maybe doesnt have that trust to me. cause I felt like because of my q he thought I have been in this activity before or something. Do you think i should reassure him that I was truthful about my past? cause I find saying it or mentioning it again a bit cheap. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 why not just tell him you were writing on an online journal or something? Link to comment
Loki71 Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 I think you shouldn't close the window everytime he walks in. My wife did that to me and I found out she was hiding things and lying to me. If your not guilty of something then don't act like it. Tell him and let him see what your doing just make sure he knows your not comfortable with him seeing the advice your asking for or giving and thats why you close it. Link to comment
Supa_gurl Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 Yeah...my husband did it to me too. (closed windows quickly) he was also on a site like ENA, turns out he had a "friend" he was talking to. And lets just say a married man should not have been talking to his "friend" in the manner in which he was. You don't want your BF to get the wrong idea. Link to comment
stella777 Posted August 5, 2008 Author Share Posted August 5, 2008 why not just tell him you were writing on an online journal or something? because he will ask what online journal or forum or whatever and then if I tell him, he may want to read the posts here which I dont like at all!! and even if he read some of my posts he'll understand it was me! I just dont want him near ENA,lol. Link to comment
Loki71 Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 Just tell him your on an advice fourm and it's fun to read things. Don't tell him your posting. But if you keep trying to hide and cover things up he will just keeping snooping till he finds it any way thats what I did. Link to comment
stella777 Posted August 5, 2008 Author Share Posted August 5, 2008 Just tell him your on an advice fourm and it's fun to read things. Don't tell him your posting. But if you keep trying to hide and cover things up he will just keeping snooping till he finds it any way thats what I did. he is really not into snooping, which is a big surprise for me cuz I act weird, sometimes I watch porn so maybe he always thinks I am watching porn, I dont know! anyway, about the question that I asked, do you think I should assure him about my past or just leave it? cause I dont like him to think I am a lier! Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 because he will ask what online journal or forum or whatever and then if I tell him, he may want to read the posts here which I dont like at all!! and even if he read some of my posts he'll understand it was me! I just dont want him near ENA,lol. any journal is private. he should understand that. Link to comment
Loki71 Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 about the question that I asked, do you think I should assure him about my past or just leave it? cause I dont like him to think I am a lier! I would just sit down and ask him if there is anything he would like to discuss. That way he can answer your question and you will know if you really have to or not. Link to comment
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