gypsywanderer Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 My boyfriend is absolutely obsessed with video games, and it's getting to the point where I feel he'd rather be around them than me. I work nights and he works days, so as it is, we virtually have no time to spend together. So, rather than even attempting a conversation with me in the 3 hours I have between waking up and going to work, (he gets home an hour before I wake up), he would rather look up the value of his video game collection on ebay, or look for more games to purchase online, or make lists of all his completed boxed games so he knows still how many thousands of dollars he will need to spend on more games.... the list goes on. But yeah, I could be awake for an hour, and rather than say hello to me, he will sit in front of the tv zoned out playing a game. Not that I want him to spend all his time with me, no. I would just appreciate it if he could hold an adult conversation with me that doesn't involve the words "nes", 'mario', 'console', 'sega', etc... Because pretty much the only stuff he says to me involves some aspect of a video game, whether it's a recent "deal of a purchase" he made, or something he saw at a game store, or something he recently played. I have tried so hard to be a supportive girlfriend. I have lent a listening ear when he goes on and on about video games. I have spent every weekend we have off together going to yardsales with him so he can obsessively hunt for more video games and consoles. I have even offered to play games with him to which he replies, "eh...maybe". Usually, he would rather take on a scantily clad female character and play by himself. When I ask him why he does this, he gets all defensive and says "it's for the better game play". Yeah...right. I myself didn't grow up playing video games and never got into them. In fact, I'd rather live my life outside the console, being an active 20 something who would like to enjoy the adventures that can best be experienced outside my doorstep. So, at any rate, I approached him with my feelings yesterday when he spent 3 hours playing yet again as another sleezy female character in some stupid kungfu style game. When he saw me about to leave, that's when he decided to pause his game so he could "see me off' i guess...maybe he wanted to masterbate to his character after i left. So, when I said something about his obsession, he got all defensive. I don't know what else to do. I merely suggested that we spend more time together than the 2 seconds before i have to walk out the door to work my 12 hour night shift. He actually cried and called me a jerk when I suggested that he take some time away from his games so we can interract. You would think that he was being asked to give up his one true love for a foul peasant girl. Well, that's how I feel anyway. I feel unloved and feel like i'm not worthy of his "collections". He also has a 50,000 card collection he recently acquired. I offered to help him sort them the other day, but when I went to help take some plastic shrinkwrap off a small bunch of them, he YANKED them out of my hands and said...NO NO Let ME do IT....freaking out like i was about to cut his finger off. I just walked away after that. It's not like sorting his stupid cards was something i yearned to do...i just wanted to spend time with him because i actually care about him. well, apparently he doesn't give 2 craps about me as his inanimate junk is more important. i don't know. am i being irrational? what should i do? Link to comment
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