MemoriesDust Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 If you read my post history you'll realise that my relationship is a bit of a disaster, but I was willing to give it one last try. I'm feeling incredibly confused and alone right now, and I'd appreciate any advice. My girlfriend and I have been back together since the beginning of July (after the umpteenth breakup initiated by her). I'm never needy when she leaves me, I just let it be and move on. I think she hates that and ends up wanting me back. After some advice on her, I took hold of our relationship and told her in no uncertain tones that I wanted to be with her. I basically took the lead, and it worked really well. I felt really strong, and even when she was pushing for a fight I managed to avoid it. I saw her the weekend before last, and she said she had a great time, told me she loved me... But since then (we live 2 hours away from each other), she's been getting more and more distant. Here are some things that are confusing and hurting me: When we're apart (or together) she rarely tells me she loves me (even if I say it to her).. I know she doesn't show affection often, but it seems to get less and less. She talked to me last time we were together and told me she worried she was too quiet for me. I told her it's what you do rather than what you say, but that can be difficult when we're apart. She's stopped calling me. I always call her, and mostly I'm met with an indifferent and negative individual on the end of the line who randomly accuses me of stuff (such as suggesting she had caught me out in a lie when I didn't understand a question she has asked). I'm not a good phone person, and I've told her that, but why stop calling me? It never mattered before. When we got back together she wanted me to move in with her, or move to her city. Now when I say I'm job hunting she is indifferent about me moving there and tells me I must do what is right for me. As I posted in my last post, she's playing games like not texting me back for 18 odd hours. It's emotionally exhausting. And she's lying about not texting me. Last week I texted to say good night and she never replied. She texted in the morning to say she'd already fallen asleep, but what she doesn't realise is that I have a tracker on my blog and I could see she was using her phone to read my blog for 20 mins after she would have received the text message. I've realised she's the only negative thing in my life, and I'm a very positive person. She's bringing me down with her games. I feel like everything is a play for power and it makes my head hurt. I do not want to get sucked into her games either! All I want is a little give and take. A little affection. When we're together our relationship is lovely (although if I think about it, I run around after her, and spend all weekend looking after her, and we usually do what she wants), but if this is how it's going to be when we're apart, I just can't stomach it anymore. I don't want to move to her city because I'm really not sure if she's showing me her true self... Do you think it's time for me to break this off for good? I'd like to think I could talk to her, but she'll lose it with me completely, and I can't face it. I'm sick of this weight around my neck... If I do break it off, I can't face another volley of verbal abuse down the telephone line. It takes days and days to recover from... Please help, I'm feeling lost. Link to comment
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