bertdru Posted August 4, 2008 Share Posted August 4, 2008 I always have this feeling that I am not manly enough. I am scared of a lot of things - spiders, snakes, dogs, cockroaches, lizards and so on. I can't make quick decisions(I heard women like that). I don't think I behave normally when I have to face my fears. This is one of the reasons why I am scared of marriage and long term relationships. I just don't think I am manly enough to be a good husband and a good father. Link to comment
DN Posted August 4, 2008 Share Posted August 4, 2008 It is not a measure of a man that he has fears - it is how he deals with his fears that really matters. Link to comment
SchecterGuy Posted August 4, 2008 Share Posted August 4, 2008 Manliness is going out of style. Do not stress about it. Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted August 4, 2008 Share Posted August 4, 2008 ^ being a man will never go out of style.... Link to comment
SchecterGuy Posted August 4, 2008 Share Posted August 4, 2008 Living in the bay area it seems to be the case. Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted August 4, 2008 Share Posted August 4, 2008 ^ that is true... but thats if you want to date guys instead of women.... I live in oregon and ct... and being a man.. will get you much further with women... Link to comment
SchecterGuy Posted August 4, 2008 Share Posted August 4, 2008 There is kind of a culture shock. When I go just outside of the bay area closer to the Sacramento area it seems to get a little more blue collar and a little more manly. Here it is very flashy and seems a little * * * * * Eye-ish. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted August 4, 2008 Share Posted August 4, 2008 Manliness is going out of style. Do not stress about it. It's all a matter of personal preference. Some girls like a sensitive man. I personally, like my men to be "manly" to some degree. I certainly would not want to date someone I had the ability to beat up. Link to comment
Loki71 Posted August 4, 2008 Share Posted August 4, 2008 It is not a measure of a man that he has fears - it is how he deals with his fears that really matters. I agree.. My father is very afraid of snakes does that make him less of a man? Heck no I have seen him knock guys out with one punch. Was he less of a father? NO in fact he was a better father because it made me see that it was ok to be afarid of things and that it was ok to admit it. Link to comment
Bkoguy07 Posted August 4, 2008 Share Posted August 4, 2008 lol I'm from the south so its pretty manly here. Link to comment
jojesse Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 Being manly does not mean not having fears. We all have fears - it's a part of being human. I think different women have different perceptions of what manliness is, to a certain extent. Some women are impressed with chivalry, some women equate manliness with muscles, etc. etc. For me, a guy is manly if he has confidence to speak his mind and the ability to stand up for himself/not be a pushover. There is also manliness in mannerisms, i.e., if a person uses too many hand gestures while talking, he will seem unmanly to me. You mentioned the ability to make quick decisions as a characteristic of manliness. For me, it's not so much the ability to make a quick decision but the ability to think logically through problems and make rational, solid decisions, rather than rash, wishy-washy decisions. Also, once in a relationship, manliness means the ability to make me feel safe, both emotionally and physically. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 being comfortable in your own skin and knowing who you are. that's all a man is. Link to comment
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