Met a new girl and have exchanged a couple of msgs on myspace, but now, nothing. Ideas?

[gcollier2002]

Hey, everyone.

 

I met a new girl and have messaged eachother exactly 2 times each. In both messages she seemed very interested as am I in her (or at least to get to know her). My question is that she hasn't been online in almost a week, now and has not responded to my last message, even though it says "read". Should I drop her a note "just to say hi" or does it sound to you as much as it does to me like she's lost interest?

 

Thanks!

[Mutley]

Do absolutely NOTHING of the kind.

 

Don't chase, REPLACE.

[ImThatGirl]

I don't think it'd be out of line to send another message - just a "hey I enjoyed talking with you and look forward to talking more..." or "hey hope all is going well."

 

Could be she's just had a busy week...

 

On another note, I probably wouldn't put the work into it under the same circumstances. One message (if only messaging is available) or one phonecall with a voicemail left. After that, I don't contact someone again..

[gcollier2002]

From a woman's POV, do you think it would come as too "over-eager" if I sent her a note saying hi?

[Roasted Carrots]

I think you should send her one more note suggesting a more (low pressure) face to face meeting. Get out of cyberspace if you really want to get to know her.

 

"My friends and I are going to X concert, and you mentioned you like them. Would you like to come with us?"

[ImThatGirl]

From a woman's POV, do you think it would come as too "over-eager" if I sent her a note saying hi?

 

 

I don't think it would seem over eager. I do agree that if you feel comfortable, you should just go for it and ask her out also.

[ConfusedDater]

I don't think it'd be out of line to send another message - just a "hey I enjoyed talking with you and look forward to talking more..." or "hey hope all is going well."

 

Could be she's just had a busy week...

 

On another note, I probably wouldn't put the work into it under the same circumstances. One message (if only messaging is available) or one phonecall with a voicemail left. After that, I don't contact someone again..

 

Come on, do you think that-"BUSY WEEK" thing is getting old and tired?

[Mutley]

Come on, do you think that-"BUSY WEEK" thing is getting old and tired?

 

Yep, we can't help rationalize peoples negative behavior towards us.

[amipushy]

I definitely wouldn't send anything else. I work with You-Me, You-Me as it should be. I would wait for her reply and if it didnt come- Meh move on.

[ImThatGirl]

Come on, do you think that-"BUSY WEEK" thing is getting old and tired?

 

Well... Sometimes I have extremely busy weeks and don't respond to people that I'd maybe respond to if I weren't having such a busy week.

 

The girl hasn't even been logged onto the site for seven days. If she had, then I'd be more concerned that she just wasn't interested.

[ImThatGirl]

Besides, what is it going to hurt to send another message should he choose to?

[jcrisph]

Well... Sometimes I have extremely busy weeks and don't respond to people that I'd maybe respond to if I weren't having such a busy week.

 

The girl hasn't even been logged onto the site for seven days. If she had, then I'd be more concerned that she just wasn't interested.

Yeah maybe she read it and had to go to work real fast so she just logged off. I do that alot right before i leave to work i look at my messages sometime and then reply at a later time when i have more time to write back. I say send another message.

[ImThatGirl]

Yeah maybe she read it and had to go to work real fast so she just logged off. I do that alot right before i leave to work i look at my messages sometime and then reply at a later time when i have more time to write back. I say send another message.

 

Good point JC!

 

I also do that... lol After I read their message, I have it all planned what I'll write when I do write back. And forget to write back. Then, a couple days later I'll be wondering why they never wrote back.

[amipushy]

Good point JC!

 

I also do that... lol After I read their message, I have it all planned what I'll write when I do write back. And forget to write back. Then, a couple days later I'll be wondering why they never wrote back.

 

I also read their message and leave it but when I'm really into someone I NEVER forget to reply as I wouldnt want him to think that I'm not interested in him and move on.

 

Don't send another message.

[ImThatGirl]

I also read their message and leave it but when I'm really into someone I NEVER forget to reply as I wouldnt want him to think that I'm not interested in me and move on.

 

Don't send another message.

 

Amipushy, Am I understanding correctly that you are assuming that the girl is definitely not interested in him? And if so, what is it going to hurt for him to send one more message just to be sure?

 

Just curious on your thoughts...

[amipushy]

Amipushy, Am I understanding correctly that you are assuming that the girl is definitely not interested in him? And if so, what is it going to hurt for him to send one more message just to be sure?

 

Just curious on your thoughts...

 

When someone does that to me I immediately think he's more into me than I am with him and it puts me off.

[ImThatGirl]

When someone does that to me I immediately think he's more into me than I am with him and it puts me off.

 

I guess it just depends on if he's looking for "friends" or someone he'd like to date. If he's looking for someone to date, I just don't see it as a problem.

 

I have guy friends that send me many comments / msg's on myspace before I respond to them.

 

GCol~~~~ What are this girls stats? Tell us more!

[gcollier2002]

What kind of stats?

[ImThatGirl]

What kind of stats?

 

Well... I know you've dated or been in a serious relationship with at least one girl that had kids, right? Does this girl? Does she work full time, go to school??

 

What type of msg's did you send before - discuss dating at all?

[gcollier2002]

She doesn't have children (that I'm aware of), she's in college, same age as me. I don't think she does anything more than work part time or possibly an internship.

 

The thing you have to know about me is that for the "busy work-week" I just don't buy into that stuff... LOL. I worked 92 hours last week and still managed to check my email more than a few times a day... granted, some things weren't of the social nature... but; hey, at least I checked it and emailed the folks who needed emailed. LOL

[gcollier2002]

The messages we had sent back were very introductory. I just told her that I had saw her online and wanted to chat with her. She added me on myspace. And then sent back a message to mine asking her how she liked it in this area; as she's not from here and told me that she had seen the same movie that I had mentioned I had seen when I passed through her town the night previous.

 

My message in reply to that was more of the introductory-type variety. "Where ya from" sort of info. I mentioned how it was a weird coincidence that we went to see the same movie on the same night (different cinemas) talked a little about what I do and asked her what she did at the hospital she listed as her place of employment. -General questions...

[ImThatGirl]

Well - do you have your mind made up? Sounds like ya might already?

 

Not all people place the same priority's on checking email / myspace especially.

 

My opinion is that you can sit as a "friend" on her myspace page never sending her another message or you can message her and ask her if she'd like to go on a date or just message her to say hello.

[gcollier2002]

In a way, I do have my mind made up and that's to "not waste my time with people by trying too hard to please them". Just like the last girl I dated... she wasn't giving me what I wanted so "sheee gonnneee". I'm getting better at that. But, I don't want to take it to the point where I'm just tossing out people left and right for petty things such as not promptly replying to an email. I think one of the other posters said it best... "Meh."

[ghost69]

In a way, I do have my mind made up and that's to "not waste my time with people by trying too hard to please them". Just like the last girl I dated... she wasn't giving me what I wanted so "sheee gonnneee". I'm getting better at that. But, I don't want to take it to the point where I'm just tossing out people left and right for petty things such as not promptly replying to an email. I think one of the other posters said it best... "Meh."

 

this is why i have like 4 different girls going on right now. only one so far i could see being a future gf though. but still, i'm not putting my all into it.

[gcollier2002]

This is my frist time with the multiple people at different stages of "talking". But, yeah, I see what you're saying.

 

This one intersts me particularly, though... I don't know if it's just because she's been a little harder to get ahold of or what...