whitto Posted August 4, 2008 Share Posted August 4, 2008 I have read through a few blogs & there issome great feedback. MY ISSUE is that I have let my marriage get out of control! My wife of 10 years always like to get out & I am content going out but also chilling at home looking after the kids (2 & 5). In doing this, I have not invested in my wife. We get on brilliantly, used to be very affectionate & despite not having alot of sex, it was good. However she has started to create a network outside of our marriage. I have encouraged her to go out drinking & partying with her single friends (what an idiot I am!!!) SO WHAT HAS HAPPENED ------ So that I do not trap her, I have encouraged her to go out. & party she has. Recently she spent 4 weekends in a row not coming home on a fri or sat night. She tells me she stayed at her friends house & how can I not believe her? More importantly, her behaviour has changed. She does not want anything remotely to do with me physically (I have tried). She has told me she is off me at the moment. She tells me she does not want to hurt me. She tells me she feels like we are friends not lovers. She does not tell me where she is going. She has told me some white lies of where she is going. She carries her mobile everywhere with her. She has set up a personal email address & facebook, myspace page. She has no family & I am her world & that is scaring her of what she may lose. She is saying that she does not like where her feelings/thinking is at. She is telling me she does not want me to change. We did split 2 years ago for 6 months (similar issues to now). We have done the counseliing thing in the past. We may consider now Is this reversable? I have been on the other side of this & once you are 'friends' I don't see how it can be reversed? HELP? I love her & don't want this to just be friends. Is there a way back? Link to comment
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