what to do about conveying that i could be interested if he is

[Gratsy]

I'm increasingly frustrating with this happening and can't seem to pinpoint the problem.

 

Its only when I'm in my own little la la land type of world that I catch a guy looking at me. He'll smile but I won't register and I'll look away. when I finally register, I'll try to convey innocent-bystander-wanting you-to-come-up-and-talk to me but then they never do after that. If I do try to smile at them, they lose interest at that point. I also feel myself freeze up...if they're hot, I try to seem casual but at that point its too late, I'm nervous.

 

This ends up depressing me more b/c I feel like there was a chance but I miss it. And then it reminds me that I'm alone...while before I was just happpily in the store trying to figure out which dvd to buy.

[Zeitgeist]

Maybe try a little harder to consciously NOT look away and smile back. Takes a little practice, but I've found myself able to do this. Not that it's ever lead anywhere because my follow-up is poor.

[Creative]

I think about opportunities on a daily basis.

 

Think context. When I am interested in a girl, I need a context. Do something to create that context so he can comment on it. We need to know it's not too difficult otherwise, we'll most like just not do anything since we don't like to think too hard.

[Gratsy]

I think about opportunities on a daily basis.

 

Think context. When I am interested in a girl, I need a context. Do something to create that context so he can comment on it. We need to know it's not too difficult otherwise, we'll most like just not do anything since we don't like to think too hard.

 

What do you mean by context? Picking up a movie and staring at it intensely until he comments on it?

[Creative]

Hmm.. how about picking up your cell phone and start discussing about topics that may interest him? That's a start.

 

Perhaps discuss loudly what type of movies you like and ask the invisible "friend" on the cellphone to give suggestion, then make it look as though the invisible friend isn't helping out.

 

As guys, we don't expect you to come to us and initiate. But we do need for you to make it easier for us by creating a context. I realized certain situations just don't have a context unless you do something to create it.