help mum having an affair

[CHEMICAL_ROMANCEXXX]

Hello, i'm a 23 year and have just finished university and living back home with parents. This evening i heard my mum on the phone to a friend saying she is having an affair with another married man which has been going on for some time. Obviously this was a great shock to me and i was very p$$$ed off and upset, however as far as my mum is aware i do not know anything - i want more thinking time before i do or say anything. my dad and younger brother are away on a walking holiday and are due back soon.

 

My parents have had quite a rocky patch recently and obviously i want my parents to be happy even if they are not together but i personally think there is no excuse for having an affair in any circumstance, you should either end things or work at things. i think she stands too lose everything bearing in mind the other guy is married and is still with his wife. she seems to be playing things by ear and seeing if things develop with him, you could say having the cake and eating it. by the sounds of it he has been after her for awhile (she works for him) and got her an office in the same room as her.

 

anyway i feel in a tight spot right now, do i hope this thing fizzles out and my parents work things out or do i say something. i don't think i can put on an act for long with my mum, i'm feeling very resentful about what she has done. any advice would be very welcome right now

[isilv3r]

Wow. I can't imagine what that would feel like. In one way, it's none of your business and it's between your parents and up to your mother to be upfront about it and/or end it now. On the other hand, you are her family and have every right to your opinion. This is a tough call. If you think you could talk to your mother and be civil about it, without making any judgement calls on her, Id go ahead. Be honest with her, tell her how you feel and how it effects the family. You are part of the family, so that is your right. Perhaps she needs to hear it from someone else what she has to lose. Just be cool about it.

[bostonbruins24]

I don't think there is much you can do.I am sure your mother is already aware of the suggestions you made[she should end it with your Dad first].Perhaps if you told her that you know it might be the incentive she needs to end things with your father or to work on there relationship.Maybe your Dad already knows.In any event I don't think you should say anything for awhile ,let the situation play itself out.It doesn't sound like your mother's affair has long term potential with the other guy being married[another problem on top of all the others!!]but it isn't your responsibility to sort the situation out.

[littlestar]

This would have to be the most awkward position to be in.

 

Take time to think about what you want to do. Maybe a good idea to let your mother know you know of her dirty little secret.

[Seraphim]

I think it is best that you stay out of the situation because it is between your parents.