Anotherday Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 I'll try to make this brief. I have a friend I'm really angry with right now and have decided I don't think I am going to call her anymore. The gist is her mom died of lung cancer three years ago. Two weeks prior to this my dog drowned in my pool. I really suffered a lot due to guilt and grief and what have you. That dog meant a LOT to me. Anyway, I called her everyday once I learned her mom had cancer. When my dog drowned all she did was tell me it was nothing compared to what she and her mom were going through. After her mom died I still continued to call her and be there for her. Of course, I could not really talk to her about my grief or she would tell me I could hardly compare the two. I didn't use my pool for three years after this and she would repeatedly tell me she thought that was stupid, but I just could not. Fast forward. My dog had to be put to sleep this past Saturday. I am devastated as it happened so fast. He was the light of my life and like my child. The cremation service was on Wednesday. I had him groomed so I could see him once more and then he was cremated. So I called her a couple hours later and she started in on me about how I could not compare him to a human life. Then the subject turned into MY issues and the fact I've struggled with depression my entire life. She went so far as to tell me she wonders if I want to be disabled. I am shocked. I sent her a pic of my dog in the basket and all she said was he looks like her dog. Since then I've heard nothing from her. I know people don't get it many times when a pet dies. Anyway, just wondering what you think of this. I don't plan to call her again. In the past three years this has really been a sticky issue...her telling me I can't compare a human to an animal. I just tell her I don't want to go there. I tell her my pets are like my children and it pretty much stops there. I don't know why she persists in this. Thoughts? Thanks. Link to comment
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