SoCalxx Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 Sorry, first posted this on my cousin (Ainsliexx)'s username, now I've got my own. Although I didn't realize we both have xx in our name. Don't mean to confuse! Anyways.. My boyfriend & I have been dating 1.5 years and are a few thousand miles apart. I live in Southern California, he's in Pennsylvania. I'm 20, third year college student, and he's 26. Because of this obviously, we don't see each other as often as we'd like and at times it gets very difficult. However, it seems like most of the difficulty lies with my boyfriend. He is terrible at coping when we're apart. Awful. He's a pretty intense person in relationships and I think he's literally made me his entire world. He doesn't like going out with friends or family because it interferes with time we could be talking on the phone. He gets in horrible, sad, depressive moods when we go a day or two without really properly talking. I love him to death. He's the most important person in my world. But, I do know the importance of having a life when we're apart. I go out with friends, try to stay busy and happy, and I want him to do the same. I tell him this, and he just takes it to mean that I don't care about him as much, or that I'm perfectly happy on my own without him. We spend a LOT of time apart, and will have to for another year or so. If we want to make it work, he has to learn to cope better. When he's in a sad mood, it brings me down. Being away from me, his family, work and everything else just contributes to his stress and I'd say maybe 5 days out of the week lately, he's been in a very low mood. I feel like a bad girlfriend, but I think our time spent apart is pretty much 90% me trying to cheer him up, and emotionally, it's draining me. I send him letters and cards, videos, etc, whatever I can to make him feel better. And nothing works. And yet when I'm sad, he barely notices. I MISS HIM TOO, but all he can see is his own sadness. I feel like I'm drowning. I want to be there for him, but I don't know how. I'm running out of ways to cheer him up. Tonight, for instance, he was in a very sad mood again because we can't talk this weekend (both busy) and he's just hung up and gone to bed (different time zone) while I'm left awake, crying, because he's so upset and I can't help him. I am so drained. Please help. Link to comment
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