SapphireNoir10 Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 Since i've been broken up with my boyfriend a couple of guys have come onto me, I've told them im not emotionally ready or available but I cant say 'Theres no chance EVER' So i feel that im causing them to hold on...Is that being nice or horrible...maybe it'd be beter to crush there hopes than let them hold on? I dont know I'm feeling awful. I cuddled up to a male friend watching films last night, he then admitted loads of feelings and i was making up excuses about...how were going to Uni it'd never work instead of just being HONEST. Eugh I really hate this. Link to comment
jettison Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 It's best not to start taking responsibility for the romantic feelings that guys may have for you from time to time. That's their damage. You just worry about being the best kind of person you know how to be, and the rest is on them. In the mating game, Pat Benatar said it best..."Love is a battlefield." Remember what these nice young gentleman are trying to get from you afterall.... they'd like to take a ride on your BlueAfterGlow Express. They aren't just being friendly. ;-) In summation, don't feel too bad or emotional when some guy doesn't get to score with you. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted July 31, 2008 Author Share Posted July 31, 2008 Thanks I just try and keep everyone happy then end up getting viewed at the bad guy for leading them on. I've clearly told them all Im not emotionally available, that should be enough. Link to comment
avman Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 I've clearly told them all Im not emotionally available, that should be enough. Yes, that's really enough because it's the truth right now. You are still suffering and getting over your ex. That's all they need to know. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted July 31, 2008 Author Share Posted July 31, 2008 I guess. I just end up feeling bad for rejecting them, eugh. Link to comment
avman Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 Right now it is more important to take care of yourself. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 Thanks I just try and keep everyone happy then end up getting viewed at the bad guy for leading them on. I've clearly told them all Im not emotionally available, that should be enough. I know this feeling and worry...! Although I feel like telling them you are not emotionally available is somewhat sufficient, I think maybe if you "know" for a fact that you will never be interested in that person, I think maybe you should use something more clarifying.. That way they don't sit back and hope and wait. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted July 31, 2008 Author Share Posted July 31, 2008 Yeah I guess your right. Most of my problems seem to stem from me worrying about other people more than myself and looking for the best in people. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 Me too Dear.... And that makes it difficult sometimes to say NOOOO I do not like you!!!! lol (exagerating here.) Especially when you enjoy spending time with them and keeping busy... Link to comment
Zeitgeist Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 I know this feeling and worry...! Although I feel like telling them you are not emotionally available is somewhat sufficient, I think maybe if you "know" for a fact that you will never be interested in that person, I think maybe you should use something more clarifying.. That way they don't sit back and hope and wait. This is what I was about to write. It's okay to leave them hanging if you think there's future potential. But if there isn't, do the right thing and tell them you're flattered, but not interested. Link to comment
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