LW4E Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 Hi, This is about my friend, she was my girlfriend for nearly three years before breaking up with me last April. The break up was a messy and confusing, but all along, I knew she left me for someone else. Before she broke up with me, she began working out a lot, saying she really wanted to lose weight, as she was more than a hundred pounds overweight for her age. She started working out heavily in late February, and I noticed that after her workout period, she would immediately go up to the washroom, and I'd hear her throwing up. I would check up on her because for a bit I thought she was legitimately sick. After a while, I began to think she was doing this intentionally, so I confronted her about it, I asked her if she was inducing her own vomiting, because this only happened after she worked out, and it went on for weeks. When I confronted her about it, she got offended and told me not to think "stupid things." Well, she left me for someone else in April, and to this day she has lost over seventy pounds. She's happier with herself nowadays, and I'm happy for her that she's lost all the weight. the other day I was on a forum site, one that is a little like ENA, I was looking up a quick fix for a nagging sunburn and I found a post that was made by my ex... I had no previous knowledge that she was a member on this site, but I recognized her username. She posted under a thread about being overweight, it was posted back in May, it said things like "I have lost close to fifty pounds now, and I have taken some unhealthy routes to get to where I am now." At another point in the post it said "I just think about my boyfriend when losing weight, I'm doing it for him." So now, I'm a bit worried, because she's been on a journey to lose weight for less than half a year and told me the other night that she has lost over seventy pounds, and that just doesn't sound logical to me, I can't imagine losing that much weight in just five months. Now I'm worried about her, because I've had family members who have really messed themselves up from a lot less. My ex has also told some of her friends that she can "never feel good enough for Jason (er new boyfriend)" and in a way, I believe that, because I've known that guy for four years and it's well known that he has a superficial perception of what women should look like. Quite frankly, it's also well known that he's an A-Hole as well. I know I can't even talk to her about this because she never listens to me, if I so much as bring up her new boyfriend, she thinks I'm trying to convince her that he isn't worth her time when, everytime I've brought him up, I've just been telling the truth, even if telling the truth means exposing his lies. So my ex never listens to me, but I don't want to see her get hurt. I'm not even asking what I can do, because I know the most common answer will be "It's her life, she can make her own decisions." I've heard it all before, I just sometimes feel that as a friend, I can do more than nothing. I just needed to vent because this has been bothering me, part of the reason I'm so concerned is because of the rate of her weight loss, because I myself lost close to twenty pounds in two weeks after she broke u pwith me because I went through a stage of depression where I wouldn't eat, drink or sleep... all I did was walk to school, sit there, and walk back. I know that's unhealthy, but my body was rejecting anything I put into it. So now I look at her, and can't help but to worry for her life. Link to comment
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