Karen33 Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 Seven days NC and doing ok. But I miss him. why on earth do I miss being treated badly? Why am I not over the moon to be rid of him? And I know that I can never speak to him again and I know this is what I want. but I just want to feel better. I looked forward to seeing him even though when I was with him I just wanted away from him. And now I feel like I'll never look forward to anything again. And its driving me nuts that suddenly at 41 years of age having treated women like dirt all his life that suddenly he'll meet the love of his life and completely change. That seems so unfair. And still its driving me nuts that he treated me so badly but he'll treat the next woman like a princess. Link to comment
cpujunkie Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 Stay tough and hang in there. All the "what if's" are killer on the mind. Link to comment
riley123 Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 And its driving me nuts that suddenly at 41 years of age having treated women like dirt all his life that suddenly he'll meet the love of his life and completely change. That seems so unfair. And still its driving me nuts that he treated me so badly but he'll treat the next woman like a princess. Old dogs can't learn new tricks. I highly doubt that his behavior towards women will change completely. If he's always treated the women of his life like 'dirt' then I suspect he will do the same with the next woman. Stay strong. You’ll feel better soon. Link to comment
lostandhurt Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 karen, Your mind knows but your heart takes so much longer to let go of those fleeting times you had with him when it was so good and you felt loved. The mind and heart battle all the time and I think that is where so much of the ups and downs come from. Your mind remembers all the bad treatment and your heart can only focus on the closeness you once felt. Remember, the heart only knows love, the mind must constantly stand guard to keep us from doing stupid things that will hurt us more. I wish you the best...... lost Link to comment
Karen33 Posted July 31, 2008 Author Share Posted July 31, 2008 Thanks everyone for being so kind to reply. Your words really help. We drive ourselves nuts with the what if's don't we? Why on earth do I think he's suddenly going to turn into Prince Charming for someone else? Sure he was PC with me for a while but the mask gradually slipped and I didn't make him into something he wasn't already i.e a nasty little bully who grew more inflated and happier the more he put me down. Link to comment
chopperboy Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 People don't change much. Stay strong in your conviction that you did the only thing you could to save yourself. Link to comment
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