Rokuman Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 I see a lot of people have problems getting "lead on" by people who may or may not be flirting with them, and become confused so come to get their questions answered. A lot of the time (or a very significant amount of the time from what I have seen) they get talked down on like they are some are some kind of idiot. And on top of that people make them feel like the person they had they conflict with was the victim. Honestly, if they are early in the process of trying to establish relationships how are they suppose to know certain things? How are they suppose to know that not everyone flirts for the appropriate reason? Personally, when I flirt or tease someone, it's because I'm interested in them on some level, why would I have fun with someone I don't want to be around? If someone attracts someone to them for flirting and they have no interest in them, there is NO ONE to blame but the flirter. You have to start somewhere and flirting is usually where it starts and most normal people are going to follow through accordingly. Sometimes I think people take more damage from trying to get help. I like to get ideas for dates or hang outs from other people, but I would NOT recommend asking how to attract someone or "get dates". People look for help and are bombarded with all of these "rules". "Don't say this, don't say that, don't look like this, don't do that." It's no wonder people sometimes have trouble trying to approach others, cause they are under all of this pressure, these "magical rules of unofficalness" on what they should and shouldn't do. The reality is, there ARE NO RULES IN LIFE. People should do (and will do) what they darn well please. Someone gives another person their number instead of asking for a number? They can, and who cares? They shouldn't be judged for it, doesn't mean they're doing anything wrong, they are doing things differently and different ways work and I can attest to this . In the end it's just being in the right place and the right time, realizing this, and working with it they best way YOU can as the person you are. Link to comment
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