I don't understand why someone would act like this

[lady00]

Long story short, I was seeing a guy for a couple months, realized we wanted different things and so I decided I couldn't hang out with him anymore because I liked him and it wasn't going anywhere. Because he asked to see me again, I thought the polite thing to do would be to decline and explain why (briefly!). I did so, but then I was surprised by his response. Instead of replying with "I understand" or not replying at all, he basically said I was being silly (as if I had been joking or something) and that he looks forward to seeing me again. Huh? Strange. I should probably just not think about it but I did think it was quite odd. Does he like me or does he just want some sort of ego boost?

[Batya33]

You might want to reconfirm on the phone (because e-mails can be misunderstood) that from what he said it sounds like the two of you want different things. He probably does like you and doesn't want an exclusive relationship with you, for whatever reason.

[A World Away]

It sounds like he doesn't actually realise there's a problem, and probably thinks you're just messing with him. The best thing to do would be to just meet up face to face, maybe for a drink or something, and set things straight. Tell him what you've told him, but show him you're serious. However, there might be a way you could figure this out? You still like him, he likes you, perhaps before giving up all together, you could bring up your concerns about it not going anywhere. If he doesn't know, then he won't know you're unhappy with the way things are. Otherwise he'll be left confused with what was actually wrong.

[ghost69]

sounds like he wants to still give it a shot.

[ImThatGirl]

Is this that guy that didn't answer your call for a few days and then called you several times til you answered and stood you up?

 

If so, I would interpret his response to be a "heh - I know I got ya - don't kid yourself." With him using it to try to play games with you and saying "yeah right - I know you're not going anywhere...."