billy1971 Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 About 6 months ago I met a girl from England and we both are crazy for each other, but I live in America. We're both set with the intent of finding a way to bring us together. I really want it to work out. We've even started thinking about the future. Suddenly my work hires this new girl about 2 weeks ago and she's been really flirty with me. I think she wants to go out. She's about 10 years younger than me and cute. I keep thinking about it but I don't think I can go threw with it because I would feel guilty about my girl in England and all the plans we've made for the future. What should I do? Link to comment
lady00 Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 Feeling guilty is not the same thing as really wanting to be with someone. It sounds like you want some freedom and don't think the long distance is going to work. I think you should break things off with the Brittish girl. Link to comment
LBP Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 Feeling guilty is not the same thing as really wanting to be with someone. It sounds like you want some freedom and don't think the long distance is going to work. I think you should break things off with the Brittish girl. Wahh, no! If you really LIKE this British girl, talk to her first. This should a talk between the two of you and not us, on the board. I mean, are you giving up on this thing just because it's easier to be with cute minor? Because LDRs are hard? I think "But it's hard!" is a terrible reason to give up on something. Look at things holistically and, please, talk to your other girl. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 So your head is being turned by the cute young thing who is flirting with you at work. As you go through life there will be countless young women flirting with older men...when a man truly cares about his partner, he doesn't have his head turned by these flash in the pan women. Your workplace Lolita is a convenient lay..she is local, she boosts your ego with her flirtatiousness and women like her are a dime a dozen. The fact that you are even tempted says a lot about your commitment to the woman you profess to be crazy about. Guilt shouldn't even be a factor...not taking up on workplace Lolita's offer should be a no-brainer if you are truly crazy about the long-distance woman. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 I don't even know that you have to be head over heels to make the decision not to respond to temptation. It's normal to "notice" an attractive person - even normal to have the fleeting 10 second fantasy. But if your relationship is strong, it will end with that because you value what you already have. Link to comment
Barry Allen Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 It seems that you weren't too sure about the LDR to begin with, but went ahead and made plans anyway. And now that you've found something easier and closer at hand than the girl from England, you figure you've got it made, and the only thing you're worried about is feeling guilty. Sort out what it is you really want first. If you weren't strong enough to start a LDR in the first place, there's no sense in keeping it going. Bear in mind, however, that the younger chick will more than likely provide a good lay and nothing else after that. The girl you've worked hard to be with, however, will be someone more substantial. Link to comment
billy1971 Posted July 31, 2008 Author Share Posted July 31, 2008 It seems that you weren't too sure about the LDR to begin with, but went ahead and made plans anyway. And now that you've found something easier and closer at hand than the girl from England, you figure you've got it made, and the only thing you're worried about is feeling guilty. Sort out what it is you really want first. If you weren't strong enough to start a LDR in the first place, there's no sense in keeping it going. Bear in mind, however, that the younger chick will more than likely provide a good lay and nothing else after that. The girl you've worked hard to be with, however, will be someone more substantial. I couldn't agree with you more Barry. I think the only reason I'm confused about it is because I've never been in a LDR and wonder sometimes if it will work, but I know I want it to because I think the girl from England is the best. Link to comment
Mutley Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 Have you met the England woman? What are the plans? Is someone moving? Link to comment
billy1971 Posted July 31, 2008 Author Share Posted July 31, 2008 Have you met the England woman? What are the plans? Is someone moving? Yes, I have met the English woman. We both met in New York and spent some time there together. The plans as of right now are for me to go to England and live with her. Link to comment
Miss Singh Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 well this is what i think... dont leave the person you love for the person you "like" because the person you love will always be there for you etc and if thats true love why would you leave her for someone you hhmmm "lust" or like you know what i mean ?? this girl is alot younger than you, and may not wanna settle down as you and the girl and England already have planned too... but as long as you love the girl in england, dont leave her cuz that would hurt the both of you and you have strong feelings for this girl...on the other hand this young girl you dont have true feelings for .... and may not be with her forever, etc... so yeah that what i think ... pick the girl in england, shes your love, and the best person to choose Link to comment
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