soulmeetsbody Posted July 30, 2008 Share Posted July 30, 2008 Me and my boyfriend (ok..ex...) split up two weeks ago. He kind of initiated it but I had been thinking about it for a while. It is obvious I need to be single and sort my depression and anxiety out without the pressure of an intense relationship. (Plus i find it hard being independent in a relaitonship). And I've been making lots of efforts since I am single but obviously it's going to take a very long time for me to be stable so I need to work on myself, for myself and not for him, continuously and maintain a stable state. It'll take time. In the meantime, we always say we'll go NC but we keep on contacting each other and even if its nice at the beginning, one of us always ends up upset. I can't bear the idea of never getting back with him even if I've been doing lots of things for myself. He is very depressed by the breakup. He says the only way we can do things is to do NC for good, no online profiles, nothing, or else he imagines the worst when i tell him about my parties or holidays (me getting with someone else) or put up pics online. He says we will meet again in 2 months (it isnt a random date...we'll have new jobs, studies, houses, we'll be much more stable in our lives by then) and take it slowly from there, when I am stable and well and he sorts his own life out as well (the next two months will be hard for him professionally). He repeats that if I didn't have these problems, he would have never left and I am still his ideal woman, he just needs to let me go for a bit so I can grow. He believes we WILL get back together because we do still love each other and want to be with each other so bad. But I need to be single. And in the meantime.....we have to do NC or it brings us down. But Im so afraid he'll fall out of love with me after 2 months NC, or we'll become strangers. Is 2 months that long? Not soo long is it...A friend of mine dumped his gf and did NC for 2 months, 2 months of being depressed and still in love and they back together. They split up again,its been 3 months and he still thinks about her even if his life is doing great. I'm scared I'll still be in love with him but he won't. I don't know if what he says is great news or horrible ones! I know I shouldn't think about it as unfinished but how can I not look forward to being with him again when he says all this stuff. Link to comment
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