Daligal83 Posted July 30, 2008 Share Posted July 30, 2008 Let me start by saying that in most cases, I agree with the NC strategy. Not to get someone back, but to move on from the relationship. When I ended it with my boyfriend, I wanted to do that but he didn't agree. Eventually, however, he did say that he needed sometime and I supported that. Recently, like within the past month, he told me that he was OK for me to contact him again. We dated for a year and a half and broke up in April. Now on my end, I don't want to do anything whatsoever that would lead him on or even give him the slightest idea that we could get back together. Because of this and because I'm not sure that he's totally over it, I'm really hesitant to initiate any contact with him. Plus I see on these forums, and I know he's the type of guy to do this, that people agonize over what ex's say to them. They want to know why they used this certain word or why they decided to say hi to them. I don't want him to go down that road. But I also don't want him to think I don't care at all. So I'm looking for advice on how to go about this. He's given me the clear to contact him, but it's not like I want to be great friends with him either. He just IMed me today and the last time was probably a few weeks ago and I kinda got roped into hanging out with him when he comes back into town. It's such a fine line and I don't want to make a wrong move. Link to comment
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