life_hard Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 It's very hard for me to tell if it is ok or not cos I have self respect issues obviously... my question is: Is it ok to get shoved out of the house, literally being pushed out of the house and the door slammed against you after you call your ex a slimball? He is a slimball cos another relationship didn't work out and he came back. So it is ok for a guy to shove her out the door after she called him slimball? I know hitting and slapping is all wrong, but is this wrong too? Link to comment
metrogirl Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Any physical contact that is made out of anger is wrong..... Link to comment
Up and Down Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 As a general rule, it's not OK to put your hands on someone in an aggressive manner, punching, slapping, kicking shoving etc, unless it's for self defense. Link to comment
lostandhurt Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 No. If someone will not leave your house when asked to then he should have called the police. Words hurt enough without being physical. Link to comment
DN Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Did you refuse to leave after he told you to? Link to comment
life_hard Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 Oh no no... when he said get out... I said "good, i was about to do that" and he shoved and pushed me out the door and slammed the door behind me Silly me, why do I have to ask this stupid question, good I ask cos I almost got "weak" Link to comment
DN Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 He's an abusive loser - avoid him at all costs. Link to comment
hisoldflame Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 no, it's not okay. and that goes for men and women. my ex brought me to explosive anger many times, and on 2 occasions, i lashed out at him. popped him in the side of the head with my hand, and punched him in the arm very hard another. i was totally out of control, and i should have just left the apartment, but i was so enraged by his actions that i snapped. in retrospect, i realize that i often felt enraged in that relationship. i haven't had that loss of control since leaving. **food for thought** Link to comment
drewciouS281 Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 well if he shoved you hard thats not cool but if you were refusing to leave and he was gently trying to push you out,.... hmmm. thats a tough call. depends on the details and what both parties were doing. Link to comment
life_hard Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 Oh no, it was a pretty hard shove that I have to maintain my balance afterwards..... Basically I am feeling weak and I want to remind myself of his bad behavior...I do not want him back, i do not want to have a relationship with him, I want him out of my life forever, but the progress is a bit slow, that's all... Link to comment
Up and Down Posted July 30, 2008 Share Posted July 30, 2008 Oh no, it was a pretty hard shove that I have to maintain my balance afterwards..... Basically I am feeling weak and I want to remind myself of his bad behavior...I do not want him back, i do not want to have a relationship with him, I want him out of my life forever, but the progress is a bit slow, that's all... Write down all the things you disliked about your ex-boyfriend, including him shoving you. With ample time and seperation the human mind tends to wander back to remembering the good times. When you start to reminisce about the good times, pull the list out and read it. Link to comment
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