Haven Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Who would you rather be with: someone you're strongly attracted to sexually, or someone you're strongly attracted to generally (i.e. looks/personality)? In other words, if you had to choose between a great sex life or a great relationship, which would you choose? (Assuming you can only have one.) I'm only asking hypothetically - I have no current situation that this applies to. But is it just me, or is it difficult to meet people who fit both criteria really well? With most of the guys that have asked me out, it seems like we either had a lot of physical attraction but little personality compatibility, OR little physical attraction but high personality compatibility. Link to comment
stella777 Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 oh! very tough question. I think they can Both be hard. But if I had minimal sexual satisfaction with the personality guy I think I would go with him. because having a great sex life without other stuff sounds like kind of drama! thanks god it is just your hypothetical question, cause I want both of them GREAT Link to comment
cuteguyinftl Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Easy...a no brainer...a strong relationship...Cause there would still be physical intimacy maybe not make your toes curl but. The mind and soul is amazing gift and if you can be the same level with someone then it beats an orgy any day. And yes I have been at many orgies in the past couple of years!!! Link to comment
Iris-PJ Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 hmm... I agree, tough question! okay, from 24-40 I will go with Lust from 41-? I will end with Love does that count? I would most likely go with the great relationship, I for one spend more time talking to people than f***ing them. Link to comment
Russ Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 A no-brainer in my case as well. A relationship, hands down. I've been dating too much, coming back home each time, disappointed to find nothing. A functional relationship would make life complete. EDIT: Oh, and, I've been through that "everything that moves" phase ages ago. I'm about 10 years ahead of myself in terms of maturity, so I've already been contemplating a relationship for the past few months. Unfortunately, hardly any girls my age have the same mindset Link to comment
Blue Streak Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Without a doubt a good relationship outweighs the sex anyday. Good sex is a nice perk but not a requirement like having a strong emotional bond is. Link to comment
amipushy Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 A great relationship has great sex. If it doesn't, then it isn't as great as it could/should be. Link to comment
LW4E Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Great relationship, hands down... I can't say I'd be happy W/O sex, but I'd be happier having someone I can relate to and share my life with than just having a bang buddy. Plus, with a real relationship you get the best of both worlds, someone to be close to and share experiences with... and sex. Link to comment
CynicalGuitarist Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 A great relationship has great sex. If it doesn't, then it isn't as great as it could/should be. exactly. However, I'll be the black sheep here and go with great sex life. Yeah, call me cold, but I just don't see myself faring well with the "relationship" stuff. I mean, it's not like I don't have friends or family or anything like that. Don't get me wrong, though. I do have occasions where I think it'd be sweet to have a relationship in my life. Then again, for an artistic, crazy, instinctive guy like me, I then remember all the times where I see my friends and their SO bickering over menial, gratuitous things. Sigh... let the backlash of sentiment and monogamy begin! Link to comment
Russ Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 exactly. However, I'll be the black sheep here and go with great sex life. Yeah, call me cold, but I just don't see myself faring well with the "relationship" stuff. I mean, it's not like I don't have friends or family or anything like that. Don't get me wrong, though. I do have occasions where I think it'd be sweet to have a relationship in my life. Then again, for an artistic, crazy, instinctive guy like me, I then remember all the times where I see my friends and their SO bickering over menial, gratuitous things. Sigh... let the backlash of sentiment and monogamy begin! I adore you If I could dismiss these stupid relationship ideas from the mind, I'd retire within the next 5 years. It's painful, and hasn't been worth it yet. Link to comment
CynicalGuitarist Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 I adore you If I could dismiss these stupid relationship ideas from the mind, I'd retire within the next 5 years. It's painful, and hasn't been worth it yet. which is part of what got me to give up on it in the first place. I still have the desires in the back of my mind, but I just don't expect too much from 'em and still fight to keep away especially when I see how most relationships end up. However, I AM still happy for my friends if they get a great boyfriend/girlfriend and they're happy with eachother. Link to comment
Caterina Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 A great relationship has great sex. If it doesn't, then it isn't as great as it could/should be. I agree with this. Link to comment
a_lifters_life Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 A no-brainer in my case as well. A relationship, hands down. I've been dating too much, coming back home each time, disappointed to find nothing. A functional relationship would make life complete. EDIT: Oh, and, I've been through that "everything that moves" phase ages ago. I'm about 10 years ahead of myself in terms of maturity, so I've already been contemplating a relationship for the past few months. Unfortunately, hardly any girls my age have the same mindset Dude, I am SO with you on this one ! I wish more girls out age had our mindset@! Link to comment
madmarten Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 But is it just me, or is it difficult to meet people who fit both criteria really well? With most of the guys that have asked me out, it seems like we either had a lot of physical attraction but little personality compatibility, OR little physical attraction but high personality compatibility. Well, there is name for people who have both...............married.............or otherwise off the market Link to comment
christinesee Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Who would you rather be with: someone you're strongly attracted to sexually, or someone you're strongly attracted to generally (i.e. looks/personality)? In other words, if you had to choose between a great sex life or a great relationship, which would you choose? (Assuming you can only have one.) I'm only asking hypothetically - I have no current situation that this applies to. But is it just me, or is it difficult to meet people who fit both criteria really well? With most of the guys that have asked me out, it seems like we either had a lot of physical attraction but little personality compatibility, OR little physical attraction but high personality compatibility. Without a doubt I would choose a great relationship vs a great sex life. However, I firmly believe that if you have a great R.. then you sex life will be great as well. Link to comment
Blue Streak Posted July 30, 2008 Share Posted July 30, 2008 I firmly believe that if you have a great R.. then you sex life will be great as well. That's probably very true. I can't say I have ever had a "great" relationship!! Link to comment
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