Millerm Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 I have been with my girlfriend for almost 6 months. She has been talking about doing drugs with one of her close friends. I dont know what to do. Ive tried talking to her about it and telling her it would ruin her life. All she says is "When you did drugs did it ruin your life? If it didnt ruin yours it wont ruin mine." And stuff like that. Ive even threatend to break up with her. What should I do? Link to comment
Millerm Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 shes 16. im about to be seventeen in like. a day. Link to comment
Infin1ty Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 What type of drugs are we talking about? Link to comment
Millerm Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 i think just weed. i know its just weed but still. Link to comment
hers Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 It's not your life. It's not your body. It sucks realizing it, but you can't control what others put into their bodies. You're very great for worrying about her, but don't say anything else about it. If she does them, make it very clear that you will NOT participate and you will not be around her whatsoever when she is doing it or under the influence. Link to comment
Millerm Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 but what am i supposed to do? im really close with her mom. should i talk to her about it or would she break up with me? Link to comment
Infin1ty Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Now I am not the best person to ask about this because I am very strong in the belief that weed should legal. I will say this though, it is a part of life that you can not control, if she wants to try trust me, its better that she try now, if she doesn't like it, then you have nothing more to worry about. Link to comment
hers Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 At this point I don't think it's right to go to her mom. Not yet. If she starts doing them and acting irresponsibly then yes, her parents shoudl know. Otherwise, you are not her parent and can't make her stop. She is being a typical 16 year old. They all experience with it. I know I did. My lifedidnt get screwed up. It almost did though b/c of the people I was hanging out with to do my drugs. Right now, just wait it out, and if you think she's getting into any sort of trouble, then yes, go to her parents. Link to comment
Millerm Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 what am i supposed to do? sit back and let her do it? im really close with her mom. should i talk to her about it? or would she break up with me? Link to comment
MushroomGod Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 what am i supposed to do? Nothing its her life. sit back and let her do it? Voice that you do not approve but essentially yes let her do it. im really close with her mom. should i talk to her about it? I wouldn't betray a friend by narcing on em. or would she break up with me? If I were her and my SO ratted on me I'd break up with them. Link to comment
hers Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 what am i supposed to do? sit back and let her do it? im really close with her mom. should i talk to her about it? or would she break up with me? you just asked this and i responded. see the response above your last response. Link to comment
greywolf Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 what am i supposed to do? sit back and let her do it? im really close with her mom. should i talk to her about it? or would she break up with me? Well you can't really stop her if she wants to do it. I think you have to ask yourself, is this so important that you couldn't be with her over it? and if you can't, well I guess it would be time to break up. Link to comment
LW4E Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Oh man, I know how tough it is to see your SO doing something that you would never approve of. My heard damn near broke when I saw my girlfriend smoking just a regular cigarette, mainly because I personally think it's a disgusting habit. I knew it was her life and I had no right to tell her she couldn't do it, but I did express my opinion on it. She never made a habit of it though, she said she didn't like it. I think at the time, I was more upset because we both started smoking spontaneously when our smoker friend was with us. I didn't like it, and neither did she. If it's really that bad for you, and if you really can't put up with a potential drug addiction (I know I wouldn't be able to) then it's your decision what to do, stay or leave. I don't know how other people think, but as someone who has yet to put a single substance into his body, I simply don't get it, I don't feel I need any expensive habits, I have better things to spend my money on. Again, it's your choice what you want to do personally, but you can't change her mind... and I know it really sucks because I know you're only looking out for what's best. Link to comment
chocolate-cake Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 I think u shuld tell her mom she culd develop a drug habit shes only 16 and weed is illegal no matter what ppl say. Link to comment
star-shaped Posted August 4, 2008 Share Posted August 4, 2008 I think u shuld tell her mom she culd develop a drug habit shes only 16 and weed is illegal no matter what ppl say. Well ayone who drinks could potentially become addicted to alcohol, does that mean you'd rat out any of your mates who were drinking to their parents? I doubt it. To the original OP, you're not her parent and you can't control her. If I had a boyfriend who did this I would definitely break up with him, and I'd also find it kind of... weird that he did that. Link to comment
SmittyGirl98 Posted August 4, 2008 Share Posted August 4, 2008 dont tell her mom, she will never forgive you try talkin to her again. if she still wants to try it, you are going to have to let her. who knows she mite hate it. you just have to let her make her own decisions. try talkin to her about it again. Link to comment
bijoux27 Posted August 4, 2008 Share Posted August 4, 2008 If she really wants to do it, make sure she's read about it and she doesn't have off-the-wall expectations. Be there when she does it, or make sure she's with a trustworthy friend. Just make sure she's safe. I'm not saying she should do it, but if she WANTS to experiment so bad, just try to keep her safe. Link to comment
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