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Am I Being Too Confident?


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The reason I ask is this. As some of you know my girlfriend left be 2 weeks ago. Basically since the day she left I have had this feeling she still loves and is in love with me. I am not the only one who has seen this. Anyways, I've been telling myself that since she left that she WILL be back, and not really leaving any "ifs" "ands" or "buts" about it. Do you think I'm being too confidant about this whole situation?


Me and her were together for almost 2 years. Her exact words when I asked her why she was leaving me were "I've just changed" she never once said she didn't feel the same way about me, and she never said she didn't love me anymore. I am 19 and she just turned 18 back in April, and so far everyone I've talked to, including one of her close friends (her friend is the one who told straight up she thought she would be coming back to me), have told me that they think she is just wanting to go out and have some fun, and make sure that this is what she wants (we have been pretty much been talking marriage pretty heavily for a while, I can remember back when she wouldn't drop asking about when she was getting her ring.)


Anyways, what I'm coming to is, do you guys think I am being too confidant about her coming back?

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What good is it for you to be sitting there absolutely certain she'll come back? How is it benefiting you? How is it helping you be a stronger, more independent person? How does it help you heal?


I fear your attitude will only set back your healing and you'll regret the time spent "waiting" for her to come back.


I feel my ex girlfriend will come back, too. But it does me no good to sit at home waiting for her. You cannot put your life on hold while someone makes up their mind.


You are not moving on, and this needs to change.

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Well to honest after yesterday I think I will be trying my hardest to move on. I had to call and talk to her yesterday about a concert we were supposed to go to and we got into talking about what we were doing, and told me she was on her way with a friend to go over this guy's apartment to go swimming. At first I was thinking it was her friend's BF so I really didn't think anything about it, but as I started to think about it more, I realized that it wasn't. It was actually a guy from work. Only reason I realized it, was because a couple nights before she left me I had to drive her/pick her up from work. When I went to pick her up, she waiting outside with this guy. At the time I really didn't think anything because it was around 11 and they were the only two left there at work, and she said he just waited with her so she wouldn't be scared, but now I'm not even sure about that.


I don't know I have a lot of thoughts going through my head right now, and I can't be sure what's going on either way, all I know is that it hurts regardless.

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