Jump to content

I really need some advice please..


Recommended Posts

Please read all of this, it will really help me out and I appreciate it as well.


Well recently my boyfriend(well he was my boyfriend) and i have been trying to make things better. The past week things were going great and I didn't do anything wrong and neither did he. Well yesterday I got back from vacation and he was working. I had a bad feeling that he wasn't at work because he told me that I shouldn't come and visit him because he would be busy. Well I asked my friend who works there if she seen him working there and she said no that he wasn't working but someone else was. She told me that he wasn't on the schedule to work that day. I asked him about it and he said he was there. He promised me that he was there yesterday. Everyone else at his work said that they didn't see him at all yesterday and that someone else was doing his job. So it's almost like he wasn't there. He kept saying he was there and he got mad at me because I didn't believe him. Well he got mad at me and wouldn't talk to me and all this. Like I told him that I didn't know what to believe. I told him it was hard to tell.


Later on he said that he didn't want to be with me and that he didn't actually love or care about me at all since we've been together. We've been together for a year and a half. He said that he is done dealing with my stuff and that he is done for good. He's broken up with me different times and took me back. He was saying some of the most horrible stuff ever. He kept saying he hopes I burn in he** and stuff..and kept saying "fu** you" and things like that. He was saying that I'm nothing but I failure and that I suck at everything. It was horrible and I don't know why he got so mad and stuff. I told him I was just asking him about it and making sure that he wasn't lying or anything. He shouldn't have gotten so mad.


He usually always gets really mad at me for things that aren't even really bad. I mean if no one seen him at work and he said to not come see him then what am I supposed to do. I have a feeling he was at home the whole time because his grandma would not let him stay out for four and a half hours like that. Thats how long he worked. I want to think he reacted like that because he was already in a bad mood but then again I have no idea. I really don't want this to be the end because he is everything to me. And I don't know what I mean to him. Last time we talked he was saying that I don't mean anything to him and that he doesn't care what happens to me. I don't understand how you can love someone and be with them for over a year and then all of a sudden not love them anymore because they wanted to know if you were lying. I was thinking maybe he was lying about it because I wanted him to come on vacation but he said that he didn't have all of the days off. He usually gets at least three days off, and if he did work yesterday then he will only have two days off. And that's kinda hard to believe. I think he might have not wanted to come with me on vacation so he lied about having to work but I don't even really know. I know he didn't go anywhere else yesterday because I heard a tv all the times I talked to him and he usually leaves his on. So if he didn't work he was def at home.


Anyways I guess were not together anymore. I think the reason why he got THAT mad and said them things was because him and his grandma, who he lives with, got into an argument or something before that and she doesn't want him living there. I was thinking maybe he was taking things out on me or something but I don't know what he meant and what he didn't. At this point I don't really know what to do right now. I want to talk to him but he won't talk to me at all and he will just keep getting mad. I don't know what to do. Should I just give him time to cool off for a couple days and call him back and talk about things or should I just leave him alone all together until he tries talking to me, or what? I really need some advice. I'm really upset and I don't know what to do with myself.


I hope you read this all, sorry it's long but I might as well tell the whole story if I want advice. PLEASE help me out! I REALLY need it.

Link to comment
He was saying some of the most horrible stuff ever. He kept saying he hopes I burn in he** and stuff..and kept saying "fu** you" and things like that. He was saying that I'm nothing but I failure and that I suck at everything.



Really? You have to ask yourself that? He's not "everything". No one is "everything". As people we learn to become independent without the people we wish in our lives. There's a reason why they aren't there and you just said one of them. You don't deserve to be spoken to like that. How could you want to be with someone that thinks that of you? It's clearly obvious that this guy is jerk and you need to move on now.

Link to comment

I don't know the entire situation, but here is my input on the whole thing from what I've read.


From the sounds of it, you guys have tried, and tried again, and it just is not working. I think it may just be time to call it off, at least on a longer term account.


He is obviously lying about being at work, there is no question about it, but the question is what he was really doing. If he had someone working for him, that means he intentionally took the day off to go do something, so there is a pretty big void there in what could have happened.

Link to comment

I think you need to take a step back and think about why you consider someone your "everything" when he treats you so badly. It says that you don't really value yourself. That's not right! You should never accept treatment like that from anyone or make excuses for it, which you are doing. Hun he's a jerk and you deserve better. Even if he did get into a fight with his grandmother, it STILL gives him no excuse. You need to take a step back and think about what you really want in a relationship. Don't settle for someone like this. There's someone out there you will love you, appreciate you, and treat you in the way that you deserve.

Link to comment


This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.

  • Create New...