acheheart Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Before we started dating, we were best friends. We told each other everything, we were like siblings. Then, we started dating, for 2 1/2 months and after it ended, we agreed to stay friends, but she seems like an entirely different person now. She seems so argumentative and stubborn. She almost tries to avoid discussing our relationship as if it was a bad omen or something. And after discussing this with her, I asked what was wrong and she says "well that's how i am now." She tells me it can't be perfectly the same and I understand that so I told her at least we can get close, or try to. All she says is "I don't know." What is with this unenthusiastic and pessimistic attitude all of a sudden =/ Before she has always been optimistic, willing to talk or work things out, now every time we try and talk it seems so unnatural and awkward. Was our past friendship fueled by love? Or... do people change that much after a relationship. Link to comment
Mutley Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Understandably, the dynamics of your relationship have shifted conciderably since you got romantic with her. She's an EX gf. Now...I'd concentrate on focusing on relationships with other friends now. My guy friends are indispensible. Link to comment
acheheart Posted July 28, 2008 Author Share Posted July 28, 2008 Understandably, the dynamics of your relationship have shifted conciderably since you got romantic with her. She's an EX gf. Now...I'd concentrate on focusing on relationships with other friends now. My guy friends are indispensible. Is this the type of thing that gets better over time or... Link to comment
Mutley Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Is this the type of thing that gets better over time or... It's hard telling right now. Perhaps give it a rest....your friendship may blossom again. But a question you have to ask yourself...why do you want it back so bad? Her attitude right NOW is totally unapealing. I would prefer people who lift me up someway. Link to comment
acheheart Posted July 28, 2008 Author Share Posted July 28, 2008 Well, it's just a pity to give up. I considered her my best friend both before and during the relationship. And I know she felt the same, I've told her things I've never told anyone and she has done the same. Why give it up? Link to comment
Mutley Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Why give it up? It's making you miserable right now. In the end...it's up to you. What you want to put up with. Plus just because it was something once...doesn't guarantee it will stay the same. Life (relationships) constantly change and shift. But again...it's ultimately up to you how to proceed. Link to comment
acheheart Posted July 28, 2008 Author Share Posted July 28, 2008 Well, I wouldn't say it's making me miserable. Just nostalgic I suppose. Link to comment
Mutley Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Well, you'll figure it out. Good luck to you. Link to comment
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