Jewelee Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 I used to be really good friends with this guy, we used to work closely together all day and I was dating one of his friends long- term. He was like 8 years older than me and was engaged and then married during our friendship, which was no problem as we were just friends and never anything but. His wife has never liked me and I’m not really sure why. I guess because I was a younger girl hanging out with her husband and he is a very flirty kind of guy, basically thinks he’s God’s gift, but she is a very attractive woman herself and I am not the kind of girl that needs all the men in the room to want me so I don’t understand it. I’ve never given her any reason to dislike me. I’ve never been friendly with her, no matter how much I’ve tried, (and I really have) but she did not want me anywhere near her husband, and used to say horrible things about me all the time, which she would later deny. I eventually broke up with my boyfriend and left the job I was working at to move closer to the city. I saw the guy I used to work with every so often when I came back into town, just at get- togethers with friends and stuff, and we were still as friendly. At the start of this year I moved back into town with my fiancée, and was hanging around the same people I used to, including him and his wife. Here’s what I was getting to; I was at a barbecue with the group this weekend, (he and his wife were not there) when everyone started discussing what they were going as to the guy’s themed 30th birthday party. I had not been told of the party. I was the only person out of all our friends not to receive an invite. I’m no quite sure what to do. I’m very embarrassed now that all our friends are aware I am the only one not invited, and I know it must have been at his wife’s insistence. I feel so left out. How can I hang out with this couple again knowing they purposely left me off the guest list? What am I going to say when I see them again? I don’t want to make a big deal of it, but it really hurt me. Also, if I cut this couple off I would also have to stop hanging out with my other friends, as we all hang out in a big group. How should I handle this situation? Am I being overly sensitive? Should I just let it go and pretend I’m not bothered? Also, just to add, his wife didn't want me at their wedding either, but he insisted and she was not happy. If I talk to him without her and do get an invite from him, I don't know how well that would go over. I don't want to start any trouble between them. Link to comment
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